I can’t offer you friendship because that’s kind of a big deal, HOWEVER, I can offer you what I’ve learned to do when I’m in a mess and also to help my friends if they have something bad going on, which is to break problems down into their core components to create an action plan.
Take it fwiw obviously, but this is what I’d tell you if you were my best mate and you rang me up with this stuff tonight:
First, list exactly what your problems are, try to keep it to the top 5 or 6 areas, and number them so you can refer to the numbers for the bits below.
Then underneath that, address each one with the IDEAL solution - keep it credible and don’t worry too much about how you get it, e.g, if $500 would fix something write “get $500” and don’t worry about how at this stage.
If it’s something that requires magick, for now, keep it within the bounds of what your gut instinct tells you magick can achieve, I won’t give an example because I don’t want to plant a possible limit on that, everyone has different ideas about this anyway.
Then underneath, write down what you can do TODAY towards those solutions for each single numbered problem.
There will almost always be something you can do right now, but if there’s GENUINELY not, then work out what the next action NEEDS to be (“Find way to get $500” for example) for that, even if you can’t take it today.
If you can’t figure anything at all that goes towards the ideal outcome, figure out what will keep things going along satisfactorily right now, without any further loss or damage.
So, your list goes:
- List of top 5 - 6 problems
- Ideal solutions that are believable to me
- Actions I can take today/next towards achieving the ideal solutions
That gives you two things: a workable action plan so when you go to bed, you know you’ve begun to take action on the things that are bugging you, or at least have a clear roadmap, and it also (with that second segment) gives you the ideal outcomes that you can use as a goal for both mundane and magickal stuff.
So, take today’s actions today, then tomorrow make it your business to take 20 minutes or so to work out what the actions are for that day, and for things where you just have a “next action,” figure out when, how, and where that’s going to happen.
When you’re in a storm of emotions and problems and stuff it can be really hard to nail down sequential actions and not get dragged off course, at least I’ve found that, so that’s the theory behind this stuff and I’m offering it fwiw.
Good luck.