Trying to explain to my ex how love spell can work but it’s this one post on BALG that I can’t find

Love, Sex Magick & Relationships
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There’s a post on here where someone was talking about how love spells can push the person into the arms of someone else, But I forgot exactly what was said in that post about the type of person that could be.

The girl who my ex ended up “ leaving me” for was someone that I did and didn’t expect. I feel like there were lessons in his decision to leave me for this particular woman that we both needed to learn, which is why my spells to break them up didn’t fully work, they caused problems and distance, but they are currently still living together.

Me and my ex that I put over eight love spells on that I found on TikTok/the Internet are back talking, we’re cool and working on our relationship. I’ve done quite a few cleanses to remove past work that I’ve done and decided to temporarily, possibly permanently stop trying to interfere with magick, i’m going to write some follow-up posts with more details and such about what’s been going on with that and myself as far as magick goes.

But back to the main topic of the post.

My ex left me for someone that I did expect because he doesn’t really have standards or know what he wants in a relationship, is a little shallow, but will talk to a girls he considers ugly or not that cute to boost their confidence (for egotistic reasons) and to get things from them because girls like that aren’t used to men that are 6’4 and handsome approaching them, he also can be selfish and manipulative, and also also because I later found out that the girl was dumb, gullible, and had a decent job. So for those reasons and others, seeing the woman who he left me for wasn’t a complete shock, but was still not what I expected.

(We were together for a year, He got locked up and was fighting his case for three years, I did the love spells in year two. We were having minor issues the whole time, I didnt notice a significant change after I did the Love spells in regards to the problems we were having, Wasn’t paying attention enough or knowledgeable enough to know if the spells were working or not at that time. He started talking to the cross eyed lady at some point after I had did the love spells.)

I did not expect him to throw away our three year relationship for an ugly, cross eyed, dumb, gullible woman with money.
But at the same time I kinda did and it’s not something that is extremely surprising to me.

This is where the Lessons and my questions come in.

A lesson for him because he knows he deserved better but didn’t and possibly still doesn’t feel worthy because of the type of person and man he’s chosen to be up to this point, & not just because she wasn’t that attractive, but because of all of the other shit, I’m smarter, funnier, more goal driven, etc etc and so are soo many other women, so you wasted your time pretending to settle down with this ugly lady. I could see if she was ugly cross eyed, but really funny, interesting smart, unique, etc. but she was literally none of that.
And once I started interfering in their Loveless relationship with dark magic shit got even worse, which made him feel even more stupid for leaving me for her.

Then Lessons for me about self-worth and what I allow in my life, the bruise to my ego opened my eyes up to some things making me think things like “ wow, he’s not afraid to be seen in public with this ugly cross eyed mentally challenged woman? Damn I know he’s using her but at the same time now I know that he really doesn’t care what people think and really isn’t afraid to settle down with somebody that he’s not that attracted to if they are a good person and are beneficial to him” and also lessons about when to walk away, gotta love yourself before you love someone else, blah blah blah, etc. etc.

I did 8+ love spells with these intentions and reasons behind them being:

Love me and only
Stop fetishizing and being attracted to Asian women
Please, please believe that I am not cheating on you while you’re in jail
Random “ fall in love with me spells”
Random “only love me only think about me” type spells

He started talking to a cross side, correctional officer while he was incarcerated after I did some of the spells & at some point, decided he was going to come home to her and not me, whether his plan was for it to be temporary or not, I’m not sure yet going to ask him, but his plan all along, most likely was for it to be temporary. Do nothing but play video games and allow this gullible woman to pay all the bills and pay for his expenses for his first couple of months out of jail, then get a job and stack all his money and continue to allow this ugly cross eyed woman to take care of him, was probably his plan, but then I started to interfere with black magic.

His Asian ex that he brought up multiple times randomly reached out to him to reconcile/make amends.

These two things I know are products of the spells I did, but I’m just trying to understand how and why.

Why did me doing a spell involving his feelings for Asian women attract his Asian ex to come back into his life?

Why did the love spells I did cause him to leave me for someone who was the perfect dummy for the time being but horrible for me watching from the outside in.

  • I found out where he lived with the cross eyed women about four or five months after he got out of jail, ended up slashing his tires and she sent a text to my phone saying “I’m going to pay for my hubby’s tires
  • This is what I mean when I say perfect for him but horrible for me, if a man leaves you for another woman, it’ll make you feel good to know that she’s not as attractive as you but then you find out she is the type to get cheated on and stay, the type to see a girl with her man’s name tattooed on her (he asked me to get his name tattooed on him while he was still in jail ) not ask any questions and stay, her man’s tires get slashed and not try to reach out to the girl and ask any questions just pay for the tires. The type of girl to be stupid enough to let a man that just got out of jail, move in with her and not pay any bills and let him sit at home and play video games all day and cheat on her.
    And now you see why I say this situation was perfectly ideal for him, but horrible for me, knowing things.

But anyway, my question after saying all this is really just about what type of partners can a backfired love spell push the person you casted it on into the arms of?

In my situation, it seems like it pushed him into the arms of someone who was perfect for the time being and also meant to teach us both a lesson, Because if I would’ve walked away when he first got out of jail and started doing bullshit I would’ve saved myself a lot of heartache.

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I mean you posted that kind of thing here last March - you said you went nuts with rancid tiktok spells and then wondered why it all went to shit, then while drowning in that cesspit of unbalanced energy wanted to curse a dude for it all. Is this the same dude?

You can see all your own posts if you click your profile picture.

In march this is where you were at:

So… you did more spells after knowing you needed to give it a rest…

So as predicted, it went sideways.

He’s running from you but full of lust and he had good times with these people to assuage that lust.

You did it to yourself. Again. Your love spells are making everything worse, there’s a crossed wire somehow and you really want to stop flinging magick around like it’s confetti. Let it all bake and settle down, banish and cleanse the fuck out of yourself and your house and take it all back to baseline.

That’s my bets advice. You’re polluted with this crappy energy now and nothing is going to work in this area until you cleanse it out of yourself. This dude is part of it so disconnect until you can see straight again.

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Here try this to specifically target the unwanted feelings of pain and angst coming from your disappointment with this dude.

It’s a bit of effort and that’s part of why it works really well. Takes about 6 weeks to feel completely free of emotional coercion by the unwanted energy.

At this point, this situation is pretty bad and has been going on for months, and can be thought of as parasitic, feeding itself on your pain to exist. Which means it starts to make everything go wrong to make more food for itself, and can affect new relationships too… Get rid of this all and kill it so you can stop overthinking it and spiraling around this, and go do something productive.

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Well, no me and my ex have been more than cool for a couple months. He wants me to move in with him, says we’re too far away from each other (2hours). Things have been getting better between us Slowly, but surely as more time passes & with each conversation, we both open up more & more. I’ve been meaning to write some follow up posts about different things that I’ve been doing since those posts magick wise, good and bad just haven’t yet.

This post may seem like a duplicate, buts it’s not. In this post, I am going more into detail about the specifics spells I did and thoughts & intentions I had in the past & asking about the type of person that love spells can sometimes push the target into the arms of because I’m trying to gain a better understanding of what has transpired between us up to this point, and why. Why did this ugly cross eyed woman that seems like she was/is perfect for the time being show up in his life shortly after I did the first spell(s). I mean she’s irrelevant really he’s using her, a tarot reader confirmed a while back that he is using her and he also confirmed this past Sunday out of his own mouth that he is definitely 100% just using her.
I believe him, she’s crossed eyed, ugly, gullible, easily lied to and manipulated, and was willing to pay for things and spend money on him before I interfered with magick.

I also said this in this post:

After I did the baneful spells in march, I did do a sweetening spell with sugar, rose, mint, lavender and syrup, like 2 months ago, but I ended up getting rid of it. Haven’t done any other spells on him since then, other than some cleansing candles for us both two weeks ago.
Long story short I really mostly just been cleansing us both, and now that his feelings are starting to come more back to normal and there’s less magical interference he still wants to be with me.

I posted quite a few readings I did asking about his feelings a while back but no one commented. I don’t fully feel Confident in my interpretation of tarot. I can read the basics, but when it’s too complex, it’s hard for me to see the complexities in the cards.

In the other post you tagged I gave a brief description about doing 8+ love spells in the past and just started talking about this big baneful plan and asking for advice.

Other posts where I may have talked about this, I didn’t go into this much detail.

I did end up doing a couple spells on him for my “Big Baneful showdown” Earlier this year around March.
They worked. He lost his car, job, dog, & the cross eyed lady he still currently lives with started to become less pleasant, stop spending money on him, & more. I did these spells, calmed down, forgot about the spells for the most part, then later down the line, he confirmed that they all worked.

Since we started back talking around Jan we’ve only went a week or two without talking at all, even during and after I did my baneful spells on him in march.

I have told him about a lot of what i did/have done magick wise, I make slick lil jokes, comments, and remarks about doing spells on him and taking his sperm, I currently have his permission to do Cleansing, banishing, energy clearing, money spells & road opener type work. I’ve collected his sperm in front of his face and told him that I was going to put a spell on him. I never did but his reaction was just like “Uh…OK crazy lady…anyway what are we going to eat?” I told him What moldy apples can be used for and told him that I was going to put them/him in a jar & he brushed me off saying he’s just gonna try to fight off the spell. just pulled the magician for intentions and page of wands for feelings earlier today.

We arent talking right now because I need to focus on myself & the energy between us is still a little wonky. But yea my situation is definitely different. Gonna write some posts follow up posts about what has happened. :sweat_smile::face_with_hand_over_mouth:

I like to include all of these details about this particular situation so people that may have already done or are thinking about doing love spells on a particular person can see how they can effect people minds and such.

Also to show that taking a step back and chilling out seems to usually work better than trying to fix things with magick.

You misinterpreted this post and things that I have been doing, I been chilling lol. Been feeling 98% back to my normal self for a couple months now, I don’t obsessively think about him as much, my tarot cards say he Head over heels obsessed, in love and going to do everything in his power to make our relationship work from my perspective and Google but like I said idk how good I am with reading tarot cards so I could be a little off :woman_shrugging:t4: