Hiiiiii guys, I have never performed a ritual with deities just lighting some candles. I’ve hire someone performe a spell for me to get back together with my ex.The guy is working with demons and based on my story he thought that an obsession spell with Beleth is a great idea. It’s a five times cast. He had cast it 2 times and every time 2-3 days after the spell I find myself fully obsessed over my ex. Is this natural?
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It’s very common for obsession spells to backfire. The magick may be being reflected off protections back to you. This is because it’s very baneful and percieved as an attack that is automatically defended against. You have no protections and are open to it so it hits you full force.
I would ask this provider to stop and check for protections and help you set up your own protections properly before continuing.
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I I did, but his answer was
You need to follow witchcraft rules:
1 Don’t obsess over the spells/pacts, it is as good as pouring water over the fire
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Be always grateful to the healer and the demons
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Always stay positive and happy
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Believe in the magic
Also does this mean that the target feel the same or it just backfired to me?
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Please do an intro here:
How do you know the person has done the ritual. Did you get photo / video proof?
I don’t necessarily believe it’s about staying positive or happy but rather not obsessing over the magic.
Being grateful sounds like a form of worship. While there is nothing wrong with showing gratitude after a working is done. Always being grateful to both the caster and demons is a bit unusual.
This is throwing up a few red flags although maybe I’m just cynical.
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I saw proof both times. I don’t know but I trust the guy. And to be honest I experience a lot of synchronicities ( dreams, numbers etc. ) I can feel my ex thinking of me and when he feel sad or missing me. But always the third day of the spell I get obsessed over him. Yesterday I literally cried my eyes out and felt better when I sent him a message ( he has blocked me, so he never received it). I have three more sections (every Friday ) and I can deal with it l think but I need to know if he experiencing the same. I have done divinations and the result is “be patient he will reach out”. Do you know something that I can do to protect myself from this ?
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I would just add something. This is purely my own point of view from my own experience (albeit not with obsession magick) and accounts of others. It seems to be that magick is very good at increasing or decreasing what is already there.
Ie, you are unlikely to make someone who hates your business proposal love it, but you are more likely make someone who has some degree of like for your business proposal love it.
Per my above caveat, it seems that such influence efforts are mutually effecting between the caster and the castee, at least to some degree.
When it comes to love/like/obsession etc, people tend to cast these on people when they themselves already have a degree of love/like/obsession for the castee. So it would not be unexpected, in my view, for the caster to notice an increase in that emotive response themselves.
Sorry so my observation is rendered in such a rambling way.
If your feelings of obsession are concerning you, I highly recommend Kevashiel. Kevashiel’s rep is about countering lust for result or obsessions. I’ve engaged Kevashiel (per the pathworking method in one of Tempest’s books) a few times to deal with lust for result and found it remarkably effective. May work just as well for obsession. But up to you.
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Did he ever feel anything? If not, then it’s unlikely. The other kind of backfire is that this makes the target run away more than before.
As I said, because you kind of attacked them, they sometimes sense you as a predator and avoid you. Getting blocked happens a lot.
Obsession spells are not the best choice in this situation, it would have been better to do something like a honey jar to sweeten the attitude first, something less aggressive.
Obsession is a mental illness, you’re trying to make the target insane, maybe slow down and think about that and if you really love someone you’re trying to hurt? They can feel that, so its not working and possibly making them really dislike you.
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I don’t think that is the situation here! We have benn together for a year and of course he loved me. He had blocked me before the spell. Although it’s only been a week from the first section. Maybe I am obsessing over the result and hurting myself. You think I should try a sweeten jar too? I will cast my self, or wait to get the results from the one that the guy is working?
You’re already showing doubt in the magic. Obsession spells tend to be the most unreliable for this very reason. I’m not trying to be hurtful but objectively how do you know he loved you. A year isn’t that long in the grand scheme of things.
Also forcing someone to change their current feelings is often perceived as an attack regardless of whether they love / loved you so there is a natural battle of wills here
Also please do your intro as I and others have suggested
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I will introduce my self later in the day, I am at work right now 
I don’t doubt magick or the spirit, or the caster, I just asked if I should a companied work. We have been through a lot in this year and we got our connection stronger every time. Don’t call it love if you don’t want to. But for sure there are feelings. Both positive and negative but I don’t think negative prevail. I know it will work and my ex will come back, it’s the feeling! My only concern is that I am the one who get obsessed I don’t feel peaceful and calm or a strong positive energy. I feel depressed and sometimes desperate and every time is the third day of the casting. Every time!
I think you’re right to be concerned. Something is not right and you should take a break. Go back to the provider and tell them your concerns, ask them what they did to divine protections and why you don’t have protections on you. It’s their job at this point to have done that.
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Tale as old as time. I’ve been there myself so no judgement here.
Besides everything that has already been advised, my suggestion is to spend at least one month working on your self esteem and self worth issues before putting a spell on someone. Get professional help if needed. Once you feel mentally and emotionally stable you can try again, but don’t use “obsession” spells as they tend to backfire, it’s better to start with glamour spells to make yourself more attractive in general, sweetening spells to make the target think fondly of you, or communication spells to reopen contact.
Then again, do not do any of this if you’re still feeling desperate and needy.
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You stating key-points, especially the last sentence 
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