Last night wasn’t my greatest moment.
I ended up having all this anxiety while I was working. Someone said to me, “Apparently you aren’t learning” because I almost grabbed a plate that wasn’t on the ticket I was looking at, and as stupid as the whole situation is (because I’m sure many food runners - even experienced ones - have grabbed the wrong plate before) it just immediately made me feel like a huge dumbfuck. I second guessed myself for the rest of the night.
I came home in tears. It wasn’t over not being The Best Food Runner, it was because I couldn’t understand why I’m doing all this work and I still can’t be the person I know that I am. I feel this person who is confident – she makes other people nervous, people look up to her, she is a leader, and she does not have an anxiety attack just because someone was offhandedly rude to her – despite all the yoga, all the meditation, all the breathwork, all the studying, all the going out and doing things that make me scared, I still can’t be that fucking person.
I mean, how the fuck long will this take, honestly? Sure, I do feel a lot better as a person. I love myself, I have more energy, and I don’t absolutely freak out anymore. I suppose the generalized anxiety I have now is better than the panic attacks I used to have, and I know that I need to give myself some more credit and see that I have grown so much and that if I just continue what I’m doing I will get there, but fuck, man.
I’m frustrated.
I’ve thought about it before, and maybe it will be good for me to take up some kind of martial arts again. I’ll see if I can find some classes around me in the morning. I need a huge shift in my confidence that I’m not sure yoga or meditation can touch right now. Of course I will continue to do what I do, I will just add another practice to my daily routine.
If I can stop being afraid to show the aggression that I have inside of me, I can take on more leadership qualities, I can take more initiative and avoid second-guessing, which leads to fuck-ups and anxiety.
I will figure it out. I know that I constantly feel like I’m just someone who is in the way all the time because of the neglect I faced as a child, and PTSD is a very complex thing to overcome, but I have faith in myself.
I let myself cry in the shower because I knew it was good for me. If I don’t express that sadness and frustration within, I will just let it pile up until I lose my shit. Like I said before, I’m not trying to be positive all the time, that is not the goal. I just need my feelings to stop interrupting what I’m trying to do with my life, and I want to have an exciting and fulfilling life, not one of monotony.
However, I was considering getting a second job and wishing I could have more hours, and was actually asked by two people to cover their shifts, both on my days off. Amazing. I’m sure they just looked at the schedule and saw who was off and who wasn’t, but I’m really glad. I also pick up my paycheck and tips today (because I rushed out of the building to cry in the car on the way home and forgot to grab them yesterday).
The road towards self improvement is bumpy. It isn’t always going to be a steady incline, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not doing what is right for myself. Sadness is necessary. I need to reconsider myself and who I am and what I want, and you can’t grow if you run away from it. You need to gain new perspectives through the various emotions you go through as a person, or you won’t truly understand yourself enough to reach your goals and battle the aspects of yourself you want to change.
It’s very hard to escape, though, the feeling that everything that I struggle with and believe in is all in my head. I think a lot of magickians deal with solipsism from time to time. It’s been a while since I’ve felt this way.
Anyway, at least Trent Reznor understands how I feel.
I hope everyone is well.