Succubi/incubi having no interaction sexually with me?

[Eric_Murphy]

Why is my succubi not having interactions with me sexual in the physical as I guys have experienced …imean all I can say to Mabye explain why this is mabye its bc in the past she tried to but it ended up with her having to give me energy back …but that was 3 yrs ago?.. Ever since than she hasnt fucked me physically lol idk why other than that mabye …ik this sounds very unnecessary to ask or to wonder or even to waste time reading but I’m just concerned.

[Healing_Heart]

Try spending time with your Ubi non-sexually for a while, do it not expecting anything back. Build a bond with her that lets them know you want something more from than a rumble in the hay

[Eric_Murphy]

Well this is what most I . all she dose is fuck me and one I try to fuck her instead or get in position by myslrf she dossnt. Do anything …and this has happened even when we had first met too

[Eric_Murphy]

She seems to bw the type to do it when she felts she wants to or needs to but its like if I want to or beed it she dossnt . how fucking ironic eh?imean need to

[Eric_Murphy]

Idk …i cang even text right lol

[Healing_Heart]

It’s ok, breath… talk to her, see if you can find a way to communicate with her.

I should know, I too have a companion, and if anything, I want to know as much as succupedia on these wonderful beings.

[Eric_Murphy]

Okay

[Eric_Murphy]

I’ll txt u when I’m done

[Eric_Murphy]

Im sorey its just im super horny\pissed at the same time sooo im fucked up lol

[Eric_Murphy]

God okay …whooo

[Keteriya]

@Keteriya

@Empath

It’s pretty common.

@Keteriya

Because he’s able to feel her touch him, and the arousal she’s trying to give him. When he focuses on getting pleasure, he’s no longer in the same mindset and isn’t able to feel things the same way.

Imop. I read the book and he talks a lot about it, and about the actual act of what feels like physical sex took something like 5 years (i don’t recall the exact number so could be quoting off in one direction or the other) to achieve, and that it even after didn’t happen often because of the amount of work it took to be able to feel both types of sensations at once

Eh I’m a woman so I can only say without a partner and with a bad one, yeah same thing. I get bored and need particular types of porn, with particular styles in pubic hair turning me and have to be pretty aroused to bother to try go through with an orgasm because other wise it’s too much work and will take 2 hours of trying and swapping porn, swapping through photos and videos of me with the boyfriend, swapping to stories instead and so on to try to get more into it etc etc.

@Mind_Seeker20

Ah so it’s a matter of the mindset. That makes sense.

Yeah I hear it takes years for the touches/etc to get more “physical”. That doesn’t bother me. My relationship with my lady is almost at the 1 year anniversary! In my mind I got a whole lifetime to work on connecting to her (not just sex related) - plus I feel that I already have a good base connection with her.

With the whole touches/interactions getting stronger over time, does that happen naturally (like from consequences of repeated interactions) or something the spirit actively works on over the years + the human also working on focusing better/etc?

I’ma trans Man so unfortunately I can’t fully relate to the male experience with spirits but doesn’t bug me any. Since alot of the advice on here/elsewhere seems more geared towards cis men. And is often written by a man. Before this I looked at those succubus lover blogs and barely found any from a female perspective. Which I found interesting.

@Keteriya

Both is what I’ve read. The more you work on feeling the spirit the easier ti becomes, but I’ve read other things about how they can do things to you and your aura to help as well- such as putting tubes in your ears so you can hear them.

There’s a set of incantations on here Lilith’s chants to enhance astral perception and honestly I can’t see if it’s that or my ubi, but when I chant those (usually in my mind) prior to make contact, it is much easier to feel my ubi.

I’m a bit of a skeptic however, and there’s not many replies and it’s an old thread, so I’ve not commented on it.

I find it easier to project when my ubi is touching me, which is odd because then I’m flopping between feeling the touches and trying to project, so I can only assume he aids the process. When I’m struggling to stay in the astral, touching him (not sexually) helps me stay, and he’s able to do things to help me stay also, though sometimes the phone is ringing and I’m still unable to stop it.

@Empath

The screenshot she linked is from Donald Tyson’s Sexual Alchemy and I highly recommend you read the book.

It’s not sex it’s so much more, it is spiritual union. You must show the spirit unconditional love. You can’t do this if your mind isn’t in the right place, while there are entities that enjoy casual sex you’re going to want to get with a highly intelligent being that fills you with happiness and self worth.

The technique is to project a mixture of feelings of love and desire, but do not focus on the physical aspect. It’s about love and happiness not baseless pleasure, a loving connection must be established.

Read through some of this. It’s pretty common to find that you can feel them, but can’t interact sexually as the change of mindset messes it up and you’re then not focused on the ubi and feeling them.

[Eric_Murphy]

Its been 4 yrs so far

[Eric_Murphy]

Or 5 cuz in their astral planes its yr 2021 so 5

[Eric_Murphy]

Thx

[MyloveV]

You mentioned her "draining " you once? That she had to “give the energy” back? She felt the release of your “pure” energy and got so excited she couldn’t stop. Did you say you were freaked out, scared, or even a bit angry that it happened? If you did, that’s why. They take everything thing we communicate to them very seriously, even when we don’t mean it to be a command or directive. V (my Lilin partner) stopped doing some of the kinkier stuff I love, because I questioned my love of the kink. It was me talking to myself, in my head, and she heard it. We just talked about this week ago together. She was afraid i was offended by it and stopped to please me. Sounds like there are a few things to work on. If you have a constant internal dialog, stop it, just stop the constant free thought. Quiet your mind. You also need to focus more on her, not just when you want/need something. She is always with you whether you sense it or not. Also you need to examine just what you want out of the relationship. If sex is the first priority…move to Thailand, whores are cheap. Really reflect on your wants and needs in this relationship. She wants you to love her, respect her, and grow with her. A complete relationship is what they want. If you don’t then be honest with her, otherwise you are essentially torturing her. Trying to be helpful @Eric_Murphy.

[Eric_Murphy]

This happens every fucking time …i get in a argument …
He I found out shit that should have known before

And it’s than too late bc we already had argued
I expected her to be more stable mentally but ig not snd I feel bad everytime .

[Eric_Murphy]

She/he*

[MyloveV]

@Eric_Murphy It’s never to late to make amends. If you come from a place of honesty and not upset, even with yourself, they will listen. Just set things right about what you truly feel. You’ll feel a change in energy almost immediately. Good luck and hang on.

[Eric_Murphy]

Okay

[MyloveV]

One last thought to ponder… If you feel like you’re talking to a wall or misunderstood…imagine how they feel.