A very good book called “Psychocybernetics” states that, when you want an outcome in life, you must see yourself being (or at least becoming) the type of person to whom this outcome can happen.
If, on a gut level, you can’t believe this result could ever happen to you, or that if it did you’d screw it up/lose it/end up worse off etc., then you’ll either protect yourself from this letdown by not giving it your all, or you’ll genuinely manifest that “sting in the tail” when you even get close.
It’s a very simple concept, the author goes on to explain that your subconscious mind isn’t plotting against you, it’s just a kind of “servo-mechanism” that holds a strong picture of what your “normal” is, and does everything it can to deliver you back to your normality, even if this normality was programmed in your childhood and has NOTHING to do with the life you wish for as an adult.
So for example, if your normal during childhood was to be treated like dirt, it will keep finding you situations where you’re treated that way, and if your normal was poverty, stuggling over money, then guess what it’s going to keep delivering, no matter how much money you draw into your life - more of the same old crud.
You can reprogram this normal via targeted visualisations, on the basis the subconscious can’t tell the difference between something strongly imagined (and spiced with plenty of emotion) and something experienced for real - it’s only a mechanism, and doesn’t operate at the level of conscious thought.
You can also make minor adjustments to your life that deliver you with daily “proof” that you’re on your way to better things - one of mine was to let go of some old gear that I was only hanging onto out of fear, and whose presence provided a daily reminder that I felt completely out of control of my own outcomes in one area.
With that in mind, a question I’ve been asking myself lately is, are my actions in line with my aspiration to command the power of a goddess within this lifetime? If not 24/7, at least, most of the time? I’m avidly chasing up ways to make that answer be “Hell, yes!” and because I found this book really useful, I thought I’d share this stuff with you folks.
If you have an aspiration and allow anything in your life to tell you “you’re not that type of person” then getting that out of the way, no matter how un-magickal it may feel, will give your subconscious mind a whole new “Normal” - empowered, successful, congruent with the goal you desire - to operate from.
I highly recommend that book but the concept is so simple that you can take it from this post and develop some guided visualisations, and also analyse the junk (material, psychological, social, etc.) in your everyday life, and get your subconscious programmed to a whole higher level of operation.