I have been in this rabbit hole for a few months now. I’ll happily share my thoughts for your perusal.
I agree with your conclusion that Yhwh was put in charge of a tribe, just as others were put in charge of other tribes. Supporting this, only Jews were present when Yhwh said, “I am your god, and you are my people.”
Yhwh’s first commandment doesn’t say he’s the only god, but that no other gods can come before him. Not only does this acknowledge the other gods, but it also does not forbid the Jews from honoring the other gods, as long as Yhwh comes first.
There have been several occasions when Yhwh commanded his people to erase an entire tribe of people from the Earth. (Ironic, right?)
There have been several occasions when Yhwh deep sixed thousands of his own people because he was angry. But he loves them.
Yhwh hardened the Pharoah’s heart so that he could justify great cruelty, like ending thousands of Egyptian children.
Yhwh has gone back on his word.
I can’t remember the author, but I have read that the gods actually fed on the smoke of the animals that were torched for them. After the flood the gods were famished because no one was feeding them, and they were upset with Enlil for ending the people who fed them. Then Atrahaseus/Moses burned an offering as soon as he was off the boat, and they were relieved to eat again. JS Garrett’s Deification Rite ads credibility to this, imo.
In Numbers 14, Yhwh forgave people when he was asked to; therefore, Jesus’ death for the forgiveness of sins was not necessary, if Yhwh was, in fact, the father that Jesus talked about.
Yhwh demonstrated that he didn’t need burnt offerings to forgive sins; therefore, imposing a ridiculous number of laws and demanding sacrifice for breaking them was really a manipulation, to make his people feed him, and to hide the fact that his well being was actually in their hands.
Now taking these things into account and reading the bible with the perspective that Jesus actually came specifically to the Jews to save them from their awful god, things begin to make a lot more sense. Jesus called the father of the Jews a liar and [murd3rur], and said that if they knew his father then they would know him, but they don’t know his father.
Jesus said what kind of father gives his kid a snake when the kid asks for bread, referring to something Yhwh did. (Sorry for being vague and possibly inaccurate with this one; I just discovered it and have not looked it up yet for specifics.)
When Jews doubted Yhwh he took their lives. When Thomas doubted Jesus, Jesus kindly showed Thomas evidence. Jesus gave zero plagues to anyone, and healed many. Yhwh gave plagues to both other tribes and his own tribe.
Though Yhwh doesn’t need offerings to forgive, Jesus said he died for their sins. This put an end to the burnt offerings, starving Yhwh and somewhat freeing the Jews even if they didn’t follow Jesus.
Several temples were found in pagan Europe dedicated to El Elyon / Theos Hypsistos which means “supreme god,” because the god did not have a name. This god was represented by an eagle carrying a wreath, because the god did not have a face or form to see. It was not a petty, insecure, vengeful god. It simply existed, and all things, including all of the gods, were said to come from it. I think this is the father that Jesus referred to. If I am correct, then the irony is tragic, for Christians were duped into believing the father was Yhwh, and then they were manipulated into ignoring the 6th commandment so they could end millions of pagan lives. Pagans who knew Jesus’ father, as evidenced by their converting to Christianity, which the Jews did not do. A liar and [murd3rur], indeed.
To bring it all together, I think the hatred for non-tribe comes from their cruel, childish god, who formed them in his image and coached them to be like him. It’s an unpopular opinion, but it’s where the trail of evidence has led me.
It also explains how he became the most powerful of the middle-management gods.
My conclusions could be wrong.