Update on my love sigils towards a specific person

[Venerian]

For context, there’s a guy I’ve been talking to on and off for almost a year and a half. A few weeks ago I started using a few sigils found in the 111 sigils of power to manifest more warmth and love for me (the intention was to be like a sweetening spell, just allow any warm feelings he already has for me to come to the surface and act on them more).

The last time we spoke (one week ago) we had a really good conversation where we were making plans to visit each other (we live in different cities).

Since that last conversation, he just became super distant suddenly. The last time he sent me a message was on Saturday morning, which was the day after our really good conversation which happened on Friday night. I didn’t read the message he sent me because he deleted it before I could. I asked him what it was and then he just left me on read.

It’s been absolute silence since then. I’ve messaged him a few times and he has always opened the message immediately but just left me on read.

The past couple of days, I was actually thinking of petitioning Buer to help become apathetic to this guy so that I can move on… but it seems I may not need to do that anymore.

I just checked the app we talk on and now it looks like he’s unfriended me (but not blocked me). I’m not blocked on his number either. I don’t understand why. We always said that if either of us found someone else, we would still talk as friends.

I wonder if all the energy I was sending him with these sigils scared him off? It’s just odd to me that all this work I was doing seemed to have the exact opposite effect. I know for a fact this guy has/had feelings for me already, and I wasn’t lusting over results. In fact I kind of forgot I had even used these sigils tbh.

[Mulberry]

Cross-reference to that other post: Love sigils from 111 sigils of power and transformation
Sorry you didn’t get replies yet on that, I think there’s just no-one active right now who has used this book. I hadn’t heard of it myself, and it’s not so helpful to post a content-free “not me”. Hopefully it will gather replies over time.

@Venerian

I wonder if all the energy I was sending him with these sigils scared him off?

It’s quite common that after doing a love spell on someone they run. We have a lot of threads about the same problem on here, and it’s not the majority but frequent enough that it’s noticed as a significant risk.

The way I understand it is pretty much in agreement with your assessment here: they feel that energy, they intuit that it’s from you, but they subconsciously sense it as a predatory psychic attack. This is unfortunately correct - any attempt to dick with free will is a baneful attack, regardless of the well-meaning behind it. .

So, they run away. Most of the time they don’t even know why, they just know that they feel bad, anxious or stressed and associate that with you (all symptoms of psychic attack), or decide you’re just not good for them.

We tend to call it “backfiring” around these parts, so using that in the search gets you a long list of all the ways love spells backfire. It’s arguably the hardest kind of working to pull off, partly because romantic relationships are so tied in to survival mechanisms, I think. I wouldn’t say the book is bad, or you did anything wrong, it’s just how this kind of magick plays out sometimes.

https://forum.becomealivinggod.com/search?q=love%20spells%20backfiring%20%23love-sex-magick-relationships%20in%3Atitle%20order%3Alatest

This post is typical:

DID MY LOVE SPELLS BACKFIRE? He Went From Hot To Cold Quick

Hello, this situation has many details but I will sum them up as quickly as possible so this post is to the point. 2 months ago I manifested my IDEAL partner. This man is handsome, level-headed, funny, hardworking, a multimillionaire, and even the exact age bracket I want. I am in my mid twenties, he is in his mid thirties, so we have a ten year age gap. I have a strong feeling we are meant to be together and get married. We went on about 6 dates over the course of almost 2 months. There is de…

A way around this for this situation, where attraction isn’t a problem, is to a) do a divination beforehand to look for where the blocks are and then b) do workings to remove those blocks, not directly on the target themselves.

Another adjustment is to add to the working some wiggle room with allowance for free will: If you include "if it be their will" then it’s no longer a forceful attack but an invitation, and that seems to help a lot.

[Venerian]

Thank you for the insightful posts as always, Mulberry it is regretful I didn’t research into this issue enough to know about backfiring and the precautions to take. But you live and you learn I guess!

I’m probably just going to stick to doing a ritual for Buer to help me overcome my lingering limerence for this guy. But if anything extraordinary still ends up happening in the future I’ll post the updates here.

[Venerian]

Hi, I wanted to leave an update here as that is what I previously promised, and there may be people who are curious as to what happened next.

At first I was feeling very angry towards this specific person for ghosting me. I had a lot of unhealed emotions towards this person. In fact, before I even did this love sigil, I was having intrusive thoughts about him consistently, every. single. morning., sometimes for hours at a time. This had gone on every day for like 6 whole months. I was so emotionally fatigued just from caring about this one person so much. And then after he ghosted me in July, I was worried that my anger towards him was going to result in even more intrusive thoughts about him all over again (which did briefly start happening again).

I ended up petitioning President Buer to make me completely apathetic to this person, and it worked amazingly well. Within a week, I had lost almost all feelings towards him. And as the weeks went by, he only sparingly crossed my mind and I would soon forget about him straight afterwards.

Fast forward to a week ago, this specific person ended up reaching out to me wanting to re-kindle things. I no longer have any desire to be in a relationship with him, and I barely reacted when I saw the message. I decided to message him again because I don’t have a large social circle (something I’m working on), and I figured it wouldn’t harm me to be friends with him seeing as I’m now completely detached from him and am leaving the country soon anyway.

We’ve been talking for almost a week, and this is the very first time where I have not experienced a reemergence of limerence towards him. He is no longer on a pedestal in my mind and to me, he’s not really got any more emotional importance than an acquaintance would have.

Now I can’t really say if the sigil worked or is going to work, because TBH, I’m not really open to this guy’s romantic love anymore. And honestly, after all the intrusive thoughts I have experienced after doing this kind of love work (not just this specific sigil but all the love spells I have unknowingly done in the past from using law of attraction techniques etc), I have to say that they really are often not worth the pain in the long run. Often, the energy you send to them is not accepted, and so that energy just gets re-directed right back to you and makes you even more obsessed and affected by intrusive thoughts about them. I have definitely learnt my lesson and will never mess with love spells or even sweetener sigils again.

All in all, highly recommend working with President Buer for emotional healing from limerence/heartbreak, highly DO NOT recommend love spells on a specific person.