It looks like they see the worth in you but what they really see is the pleasure they get from their idea of you. Sometimes, they won’t fully understand it themselves. Also, it’s much better if you see the worth in you and commit to yourself just because it makes you feel goo. Much more rewarding and reliable. I mean, like, y’know if that significant other changes his/her mind or gets squished under an 18-wheeler or somethin’.
Animalistic porn style sex? Great stuff but I don’t remember mentioning it. It’s not my type either but that’s only because I’m so fucking lazy. Heh heh porn style sex and fucking lazy.
If physical only feels cheap and bad taste, then why not just focus on the more non-physical stuff, i.e. just keep sex out of it and build friendships etc. You are, from every angle, overemphasising the sexual aspect.
I understand and that’s why I think you need to get off this issue to invest more in self-knowledge. Know this: overvaluing, i.e. thinking it is fabulous and wonderful and awesome etc etc, something leads to trouble because nothing is truly inferior or superior and the true value is your Self. Everything you are experiencing is somehow showing you something about you. You need to examine and understand for yourself.
You don’t need a commitment to have a kid / be a Mum. Many ways around that. Get a pet if you feel like cuddling. Adopt a kid. You’ll still need self-worth though or you’ll soon have major issues with your kid dumping you.
I can do that porn style sex but it is not fulfilling. And people who want to do this type of sex they just treat you bad.
And what I mean is it is not like you have a friend and you just slept together. They pursue you… turn you on… you have sex and then they avoid you like you did something bad. They avoid conversation… they treat you like dirt on their shoe. You just have to keep going… keep changing sex partners. How many times can you do that before you start feeling drained?
I’d rather have a dildo. It is safer… cleaner… less hastle. etc.
Sex in a relationship is so much better. You cuddle after it. They don’t just open the door and leave asap and block you on all social media out of fear you might catch feelings.
These people would have been less afraid of catching the flu or HIV than seeing you catching feelings.
DOes this sound attractive to you? They treat you like you are desperate even if you ignore them afterwards. Eww… I’d rather stay away from that.
I mediate yes. And nope. I don’t want to adopt. THat would make me feel even worse.
You see if you take a look at biological psychology the purpose of every being is to pass their genes in the new generation. This is the natural thing. This is the natural selection.
Us humans, because we have a brain we take it a step further and we focus on spirituality… but our body is still our body. We still have it. We cannot live without food… or sleep … then why should it feel natural to live without sex? ie without procreation? Why would it feel great to know that you did not pass your own genes and you have to look after the lucky ones who actually got the chance to pass them down? So no. I wouldn’t like to adopt.
Casual sex people don’t treat you bad. They just want to get on with the rest of it. They’re not avoiding you, they’re focussed on something else. Your dependency on another for emotional fulfillment is what’s making you feel bad and it will always do so. More than ever I think you need to get off the relationship search and do some soul searching. I mean do the rest of it: friendships, hobbies, work you like etc etc. Travel mebbe?
Dildos are alright. Sure, totally okay.
I think feelings are far more problematic than HIV and the flu. I know illness is unpleasant but so is attachment even when pleasure. Heh heh yeah paradox.
They treat you like you are desperate even if you ignore them afterwards? Are you ignoring them if you notice this?
Oh yes they do. They speak ill about you to common friends. And it comes a time they find someone and then behave like you were just as useful as a tissue to wipe their butt.
I had someone who I slept twice with him saying about me that he didn’t even date me. And he brought at my work his new girl to show off and rub it on my face. Even though I had told him almost a year ago I lost interest.
I can go on about stories on the casual sex type of people. I have met lots of them.
I am surprised people fail to see how much it takes away from their spirituality.
I don’t think people understand what you are going through. I can relate to you. After I broke up with my bf of 5 years. I knew he or his new gf did something to me. All my relationships always failed. They went from hot to cold. I had my cards read by a santero and he told me exactly what I just stated. “Your relationships never work out. They go from hot to cold.” He showed me the cards and they had me hanging. But, I still didn’t want to believe They did work on me. So, a year later or more, I had my voodoo priest read my cards and he told me the same thing. The cards came up as if I was hanging. (So you need to get a reading done). So ya…I was really pissed off because my life was shitty. I had financial issues etc etc. My ex and gf wanted to see me at my worse. So I decided to take control and … yes I confronted my ex and the woman. (Not advising you to do that. I’m well protected by people). Exposing their asses scared the shit out of them. They had their children getting baptized. I was like, how the fuck you want to practice magick when it’s convenient, but run like bitches to baptize your piece of shit kids? What did I do after? I had bath cleansings prepared by my santero. I fucken kid you not. The first bath cleansing I did on myself caused my son to wake up an hour later vomiting . My son was not even sick prior to going to sleep. I took my son to the santero the next day and he cleansed my son. The santero told me, “Whatever he or she did is now affecting your son”. That’s why he woke up vomiting. He is your weaker link.” During the cleansing my son was saying it burns. Hmmm That’s when I decided to go into practicing voudoun. I didn’t know about the goetias. My voodoo priest used to always emphasize Demons are evil . Well, Baron samedi and la Santa Muerte (who I have always been devoted to) helped me out. I did ritual work with their assistance. I also made sure to cleanse, cleanse, and cleanse. I’m good now. You need to take charge. I get the feeling you fear that mofo and you have internalized negative emotions and feelings that still affect you. You need to Change your mindset. Fuck him. Get a reading and continue cleansing. Work with la Santa Muerte or Baron samedi. If that mofo did work on you. Get his ass back.
Well the last time I had sex was over 18 Months A go do i know the feeling.
But to be honest this is what I would do
First of all we’re do you meet this guys ?
Try to find a community center if you have any of those in your proximity those places are always nice to meet people that are not only focused on getting layed and nothing els.
Second take a night course in the university that’s were I meet my wife I’m married to know.
Unis are not only fret parties you can also find hidden gems their as well . so that’s a thought on were you can hook up with a good man.
I would consider a truth spell and ask them frankly are you dateing me only to get in to my pants or are you truly connected to me .
Well, there are some very nice and cuddly specimens that I see are up for adoption in many places. Some real nice pieces to entertain .
Spend much more time in meditation, yoga, ritual or whatever makes you feel a bit calmer.
Nature and natural are just ideas we have grown accustomed to. They are not the truth of reality. Purpose can be anything you want it be. I have no great urge to pass anything goo or bad to the next or new generation. Quite frankly, I don’t really care about the next gen apart from next gen tech. My tech and creature comfort upgrades would be way more important. The next thing I’m interested in would be more important. Obviously, you can have different perspective. It’s just that: perspective and not fixed truth.
You have it (body). It, so it’s not you. Who are you? That’s the question you should answer and clearly. Us humans, we have a brain: so what is human without the brain? You’re right, we have a brain but we are not our brain or body or even our experiences.
All the seeming impossibilities you mentioned are not truly impossible. We might not have clear evidence of such things but it could emerge at any time. Asking “why” doesn’t help beyond a point. Although reason is very useful, it is contingent on consciousness and consciousness or existence needs no reasons. Personally, I don’t feel great about not having passed my genes to a next gen. I’d be more interested in passing my memes on if anything. I don’t feel great or bad about not passing genes on: it’s quite irrelevant to me.
Lucky ones? Boy, you really overvalue being a parent. With a dependent self-concept, parenthood can be a quite disappointing experience for you. Why do certain approaches to reality recommend celibacy or casual sex?
Again, you can have all these things you want provided you get your priorities right: self-acceptance and self-knowledge first, all the rest next. At the very least, learning to go with the flow without holding grudges will help.
You’re right , I can see this issue is spiraling you into a whirlwind of emotions. It’s ok I feel that way not in the same case as you but same aspect of life, it’s gonna be alright. Listen to Abraham Hicks and Neville Goddard , Eckhart Tolle, do stuff you like , listen to music you like , it’s gonna be alright
Ahh, they have issues of their own then. However, are you able to see how they correspond to your state of mix-up on this topic?
All these experiences, because they are repeating, are clear indicators of your habitual state of consciousness on this issue. As within, so without.
It doesn’t take anything away spiritually. All of this is also spiritual: there is only spirit/consciousness of which the material is an aspect.
been there done that… got the tshirt. It will still look into my eyes cheap and unattractive.
And I kinda feel forced into this hookup culture. It is not just me who says that. It is other people I spoke to as well. (Please don’t bring up the law of attraction).
I need some work to do on myself as everyone does. I have done already some but there is something awkward about my experiences that needs to be stopped.
Well, truth is truth whether it comes labelled as the “Law of Attraction” or not. Other people agreeing with you is not indicative of the truth. Experience corresponds perfectly to consciousness and the more stable the pattern of consciousness or more accepted it is, the more stable the experience.
If you want to stop it, you have to shift your consciousness to something else. If you feel forced to hookup, then why do you do it? Do not do stuff that you dislike thinking it will lead to something that you do like: it don’t necessarily work that way. Sure, everyone does and it is just important to realise that it lies within us and not in the conditions that we experience.
More manipulation
You do not have to buy into what you are told.
Throw it out and rewrite your book
You may end up naturally finding the person/entity/Spirit who is ment to be with you.
Or not
Dose the mother need to live with the child’s fat er all the time time…
Our social networks dictate what is healthy and normal
But I’d it really.
Once you release what is your holding and desperate for the changes you truly desire will manifest in ways that you do not expect
is this why you tell me all this BS about self love/awareness etc? *facepalm lol
No mate. Nope. I go out on dates. We agree on a relationship. I have sex and they say oh I just changed my mind now I want to be single. I am talking about being led on…
“If the person you are talking to doesn’t appear to be listening, be patient. It may simply be that he has a small piece of fluff in his ear.” —Winnie the Pooh
Sometimes them person think they aren’t leading us on yet they are. People are so unaware of their actions these days. And they don’t communicate to clear things up cuz it’s what pooh said. They got fluff in their ears. I can’t be patient like pooh. haha. I mean, i’m very patient , just not like him .
. Well, Baron samedi and la Santa Muerte (who I have always been devoted to) helped me out. I did ritual work with their assistance. I also made sure to cleanse, cleanse, and cleanse. I’m good now. You need to take charge. I get the feeling you fear that mofo and you have internalized negative emotions and feelings that still affect you. You need to Change your mindset. Fuck him. Get a reading and continue cleansing. Work with la Santa Muerte or Baron samedi. If that mofo did work on you. Get his ass back.
