I’ve been down on myself lately about a l ot of things. I’ve found myself slipping back into old mindsets and worrying about things I thought didn’t bother me any longer. Intrusive thoughts, excessive daydreaming, mild paranoia, sense of impending doom, generalized anxiety, putting off responsibilities, etc.
They aren’t present in the way that they were a year ago, but they have very quietly crept back in.
I’ve been having these introspective moments when I take my dog out to go to the bathroom. I was thinking about what it meant to be a “stable” person. Everyone wants to reach a sense of stability, but what do people think that means?
I realize that I’ve been striving for a goal to be stable, but my concept of stability is very off.
Being stable does not mean being happy all of the time. It doesn’t mean constantly floating high above everyone else in a delirious state of positivity. You cannot maintain that for a very long period of time without getting knocked off your cloud at some point.
I have been ignoring my dark side and stuffing it deep, deep down inside of me. As I removed external negative factors in my life, I also got rid of entire personality traits and interests. I stopped striving to understand myself and simply decided to throw the whole person away.
The other day I got pissed off. It was rare for me to feel anger these days, and I indulged in it a little bit. Instead of choosing to ignore the shit, I decided to allow myself to get lost in that anger. It felt great. It was invigorating.
Not too shortly afterwards, I started to beat myself up for getting angry. Why did I let myself lose control like that? I thought I came so far in my development as a person, yet here I am again, losing control. Emphasis on “losing control” as a key part of the shame I felt for having anger.
What is wrong with being angry? I must ask myself this. It is a natural human response. It is a feeling as valid as any other emotion.
I realize that being stable does include the entire range of human emotion. It is having a healthy balance of each emotion. I was beating myself up for the tiny amount of rage I felt because all I’ve been experiencing for the last few months was pure happiness, so a small amount of anger felt like much more than it actually was.
I need to get back in touch with my darkness instead of running from it. I cannot continue to fool myself into thinking that I must be happy at all times. I need to remember what it is like to find the beauty in all dark things.
I’ve experienced what it is like to be cloaked in negativity and darkness, and I’ve experienced what it is like to be consumed by happiness, and now I just have to merge the two experiences and bring on a balance in my life. I will be able to perform ritual and meditation with an openness I have not had in a while.
This has been an amazing revelation for me. I’m grateful for the time I’ve had off of work to be able to just sit around and think.
I don’t need to be afraid of “losing control” any longer. I need to stop being afraid that the moment I relax will be an opening for me to lose all the progress I’ve made as a person. It’s okay to relax. I will never be as bad as I was even if I tried because a lot of it was drug induced anyway, so as long as I’m not on drugs, I’ll be okay. I’m still doing all of the things I need to do in order to regulate my emotions and process my thoughts in a therapeutic way. I’m constantly adding more things into my life that will balance me out.
Life, for me, is not going to be about ignoring the negativity. I have been wondering why I still cannot seem to figure out how to properly deal with stressful situations and people, and it is because I have not been practicing how to do that like I originally thought I was. I didn’t realize that I was ignoring all of this. Now that I know that, I can pick up where I left off and learn how to face that shit instead of running away. I will look it in the eyes and not falter. This will test my confidence and my stamina, but it will all be worth it.
I’ve had an idea to create a self-love altar from a dream I had. Asmodeus was in my dream – I had an altar to him, and I was trying to find space to make an altar for myself. There was a lot of red floral visuals in my dream, the lights were dim. Almost romantic.
I’ve decided to do this, after all, why not? I’m striving towards becoming a living God, so shouldn’t I have an altar? Shouldn’t I worship myself, faun over myself, gift myself things I love?
I’m sure I can get over a lot of confidence issues and begin to learn who I truly am as a woman with time at this altar I’m going to make.
It’s exciting – I’ve been having all of these thoughts and ideas lately, just like when I first started on the path of demonolatry. The thrill of delving into a spirituality so mysterious, the way you get lost in your imagination and creativity with a childlike innocence and naivety.
Plateaus in development come when you lose sight of that inner child and are no longer excited by what you practice. Come at it from a different angle, introduce something new into what you are doing, keep it interesting. Don’t let it become just an every day part of your life. Get excited again. Become passionate.
Run out into the rain, jump into the pool fully clothed, get lost in dance, admire yourself in the mirror, go on a midnight walk, climb a tree, roll down a hill, start a garden, whatever. Keep life fun and interesting, we all know that keeps one happy. The same goes for your practice. Mix it up, don’t play by the rules all the time, let go and free yourself and just roll with it.