It’s a good morning here in Florida. The sun is shining and all the animals are coming out to interact with the world. There is a big spider who has joined the household, and his web over the front porch has gotten bigger and bigger.
Yesterday my anger really affected my s/o. It wasn’t directed at him, but it still made him feel the want to isolate. I felt very bad because all this time I have been thinking about how I feel and how frustrated I have been with my emotional state, but never once stopped to think about how my reactions affect those around me.
I realized that it is not my emotions that have become out of control, and I am not recently more unstable. It is simply that I fell out of practice in being aware of my thoughts as an outsider. I gave in to my thoughts and reacted accordingly, instead of taking a look at those thoughts, analyzing them, deciding that I did not relate to them, and reacting in accordance to who I know myself to truly be.
I am working on maintaining a healthy objectivity when it comes to my emotions, and must remember to repeat the mantra, “I am not my body, I am not even my mind.”
It is easier to live those thoughts when I am home all day long, but when you start working and dealing with other people’s’ emotions, you can slowly start to fall back into old habits.
It’s much harder to look at the chaos all around me at work and to avoid complaining or being negative about it, and I was doing great for the first month, but began acting like the others there. Complaining about customers, getting frustrated when it’s busy, etc.
There’s no reason to get upset. I have only to gain being there, and the busier it gets, the more money I take home. Why get stressed about my work performance or whether anyone is happy with me or not? Fire me or keep me, I don’t care.
Of course I know, though, that they would never fire me, because I am too good at my job.
I will take today to practice awareness and understand that there is no reason to immediately react to whatever thought or feeling arises – I will give myself a moment to analyze what is going on in my head before I think to speak or react.
There is nothing wrong with my emotions or mental state. I just fell out of practice, which is no big deal at all.
It’s so much easier to think that you are just spiralling out of control, and it takes discipline and effort to understand that you simply need to be more aware and patient, and practice self control.
Today will be great. I had a dream that I excelled at hostessing, so I have no doubts that that is my reality.