Something I noticed (Advice needed)

[Ulunas]

Alright guys, so for pretty much a whole year I have been wondering how come my own wives can’t seem to arouse me when I think of them sexually.

And something prodded my memory which reminded me of something, when I actually like or have a crush on a girl, I find that I am totally unable to get aroused alot when I think about them. It first happened with an Asian girl I knew, I never could get aroused by her, but then when I moved and I got interested in a new girl, I was able to masturbate and think sexually about the Asian girl.

The same thing happened with the girls continuing on from there, and I was wondering, is the reason I can’t get aroused by my succubi wives and my kitsune wife because I respect them too much?

So is there any advice ya’ll could give that could help me be able to get aroused by my wives while still respecting them?

Respectfully,
Ulunas

[Keteriya]

Well. I know you have other types of wives, but it’s common with ubis, to find it difficult.

Am I supposed to masterbate with a succubus?

. It’s pretty common.

@Keteriya

Idk if I would even say that if she can’t audibly tell you, because you shift gears when you go from focusing on being touched to touching yourself.

It’s almost like the meditation thing. You’re not longer in the right gear to feel spirits of this type, and thusly makes it difficult to actually get to where you can be in both gears at once.

@Keteriya

Because he’s able to feel her touch him, and the arousal she’s trying to give him. When he focuses on getting pleasure, he’s no longer in the same mindset and isn’t able to feel things the same way.

Imop. I read the book and he talks a lot about it, and about the actual act of what feels like physical sex took something like 5 years (i don’t recall the exact number so could be quoting off in one direction or the other) to achieve, and that it even after didn’t happen often because of the amount of work it took to be able to feel both types of sensations at once

Eh I’m a woman so I can only say without a partner and with a bad one, yeah same thing. I get bored and need particular types of porn, with particular styles in pubic hair turning me and have to be pretty aroused to bother to try go through with an orgasm because other wise it’s too much work and will take 2 hours of trying and swapping porn, swapping through photos and videos of me with the boyfriend, swapping to stories instead and so on to try to get more into it etc etc.

@Keteriya

Both is what I’ve read. The more you work on feeling the spirit the easier ti becomes, but I’ve read other things about how they can do things to you and your aura to help as well- such as putting tubes in your ears so you can hear them.

There’s a set of incantations on here Lilith’s chants to enhance astral perception and honestly I can’t see if it’s that or my ubi, but when I chant those (usually in my mind) prior to make contact, it is much easier to feel my ubi.

I’m a bit of a skeptic however, and there’s not many replies and it’s an old thread, so I’ve not commented on it.

I find it easier to project when my ubi is touching me, which is odd because then I’m flopping between feeling the touches and trying to project, so I can only assume he aids the process. When I’m struggling to stay in the astral, touching him (not sexually) helps me stay, and he’s able to do things to help me stay also, though sometimes the phone is ringing and I’m still unable to stop it.

@Empath

The screenshot she linked is from Donald Tyson’s Sexual Alchemy and I highly recommend you read the book.

It’s not sex it’s so much more, it is spiritual union. You must show the spirit unconditional love. You can’t do this if your mind isn’t in the right place, while there are entities that enjoy casual sex you’re going to want to get with a highly intelligent being that fills you with happiness and self worth.

The technique is to project a mixture of feelings of love and desire, but do not focus on the physical aspect. It’s about love and happiness not baseless pleasure, a loving connection must be established.

I think you saw this, but you might want to consider it again. I’ve experienced what you’ve described in the physical, but that was usually related to I was only attracted to a guy until I could have him. Once I had him, or hid him naked, I then had zero attraction.

That changed when I met the right guy for me, and the boyfriend and I averaged 3-4 times per day while we were together, and in nine months, had more sex than most couples do in ten years, and the attraction has never ceased so.

I also think with like porn and stuff, you get so used to a variety and hell, I flip through often trying to find just the right position, with jsut the right types of in the couple etc and can’t focus on a particular one usually. I need just enough to get me really turned on so that I can do my thing without them.

Maybe none of this is helpful. Idk sorry.

[Ulunas]

So one of my wives just talked to me about this little problem and she said that she had no problem transforming into a form I would find arousing. She also said when it comes to the arousing, “Let me do all the work.”

So I guess that means to stop trying to arouse myself and leave it to her.

[Keteriya]

@Ulunas

So I guess that means to stop trying to arouse myself and leave it to her.

Yeah I think so. I think when you shift to trying to do it yourself it actually makes it harder because of the mindset change, I could be wrong, but that’s the impression I get of things like this.

[DXLelouch24]

I can parrot this,Clara vastly prefers i just let her take the lead