Recently, a new friend was introduced to my social circle. I just moved and have been having guests at my house with my wife.
My main friend will come with two others. One of them is not necessarily my type (more of a bro) but I’ve been very kind and wanted to have friends as I am usually very isolated.
But there was something off about him, and after weekends of hosting everyone, I have Been thinking and feeling something negative about him in the back of my head.
Time goes on, we needed a break from having guests and drinking to balance our lifestyles so it doesn’t get old.
Then one Friday night, the one friend I feel suspicious of texted me, but I was taking a nap. He calls and texts my wife, then proceeds to come over with a bottle of vodka and tries to get hammered and party.
The whole night, he is cutting me off and talking to her more, flirting with her basically. His entire conversations usually revolve around girls he wants to fuck and he has no respect for who is in a relationship as he already tried to tuck with my wife’s sister when she’s engaged.
His discussions and behavior that night were aggressive and to me, pointed to being a person I couldn’t trust with my wife alone.
Since that night, I haven’t liked him and told my wife about it and she now realizes he’s toxic and a sexist creep.
Since then, last night and tonight, he has called her to come over or get us out of the house. She had to turn him down.
She’s frustrated because she was unaware of how men think, which I had to kind of be realistic with her about it - but also now, we have to make everything complicated since he is now right in the middle of everyone I want to see when I have free time.
I’ve already made it clear how I feel about drinking every weekend and don’t talk to him on a regular basis. But in his mind, we owe him our every Friday night and all of a sudden, he has the right to call and text my wife like they’re bosom buddies.
It would be incredibly awkward and uncomfortable to make it a big problem by confronting him or telling him he is unwelcome
But now, my wife is unhappy and lonely, I’m frustrated and feel like shit and feel like we’re almost going to have to be subjected to being around sexist drunk douchebags to have a social life.
I’m really worried that if I do binding magick to get him to fuck off somewhere else, it will impede on my workings elsewhere and cross my path up with negativity
But I don’t know what else to do. I don’t want to harm anyone or cause him misery, but he’s making my life miserable and is too stupid to figure it all out on his own.
What would you do?