I’ll kindly disagree with you on this. I CAN agree that both sexes have stereotypical behavior that unfortunately stems from pieces of truth. But not all people in general are like this. Narcissists, gold diggers, users and cheaters aside - id like to think most people are truly searching for something real.
But. What is real to one is not to the other. We’ve seen throughout history and to this day how people can “ love “ anyone. Spend enough time together and feelings of attachments develop even in undesirable situations. Humans crave attachment and it happens. So being able to love isn’t the issue, rather it’s getting your needs met and I can agree with you to some extent on this but not entirely.
I’ve come to decide when a person actively seeks a companion they may find someone suitable or passable but it would lack in many ways. I still believe that when love hits two people unexpectedly it’s the universe or god or your own higher self - whatever you wish to call it- their way of waking you up and saying “ here, this is meant for you.” It tends to bring out the best in us and everything seems “ perfect,” because it COULD be. What we as people do with it makes the difference though.
We must be honest with ourselves first and with the other party. Sometimes we look to fill a void, for someone to show us a way out or simply to occupy the time. It’s important to know and tell. Love isn’t the issue, not knowing what we truly want or feel is.
This just brought clarity to something Queen Beleth explained to me - she told me that people often don’t KNOW what they feel let alone express it. It’s because of the garbage we’ve picked up and the influences we’ve adopted weather consciously or not. Deep down, we recognize our heart in someone else but we self sabotage and seek outside help when we are our own enemy here.
And often two people are on two different pages as to what they are looking for. That’s ok. At some point love strikes us again because the gods and our ancestors and guides still give us those gifts. I would think it would be desirable and ideal to recognize it when it happens and hopefully the other person does too. They may not and as long as a result depends upon another we would be on shaky ground.
Still, a persons ability to love YOU says little about the love you’re capable of giving and receiving. As Lady Lilith told me : “ A heart that loves never loses the love - it multiplies on and on weaving its way through eternity.”
This is no white lighter keep your head up comment. It’s merely applying the wisdom passed on to me from the infernal kingdom.