I don't know what I am doing wrong, need an outside perspective

[Mulberry]

@Brightflame

If the “law” of attraction or whatever, was really a law, it would always work

Have you seen Lady Eva’s post about this? I might have some explanation.

Urgent Warning About "The Law Of Attraction"

Take a moment to consider the single biggest goal you have right now in your life. Write your goal on a sheet of paper, in the format: “I want to be/do/have (describe goal).” Underneath, write this: And are you ACTING like it? ~ Signed, Your Inner Daemon Example: “I want to be rich” - okay. But are you acting like you want to feel rich, and be rich, like you’ll be a good steward of even more money than you currently have - or do you dwell on poverty, lack, things out of your reach, while wasting money on non-essentials, to reaffirm that all you can do is palliative care for your current miserable self? “I want a great lover” - who doesn’t. But are you acting like the catch of the century, to the type of person you want to date? Are you levelling-up your physical appearance, and all the other attributes that will attract that desirable kind of person? Or are you just stuck mumbling spells, splashing blood and other body fluids, driving yourself deep into obsession, and generally becoming the kind of person no-one wants to sit next to on the subway? “I want a better home, job, car, social life, education…” All of these things, if you make the most of what you have, by honouring it and showing it some attention, some love, and by treating it as a valid project, requiring focus and action - you will still succeed in having the “better” version than there was before, when all you did was grumble about its limitations and inadequacies. But more than that, in my expe…

I don’t follow the formal methods for LOA, I think of this as simply “like attracts like”.

This seems largely correct, so I’m ok calling it a “law”, but, magnets attract each other and you can still pull them apart. Attraction does not equate to having. It just makes things a bit more likely to come together as long as they’re not stopped.

Other forces, energy flows and people are a huge factor that need to be considered.
Some of these opposing forces are inside us, in our psyches. We have to know ourselves as well as understand the flows around us to know what magic works and why.