I’m curious to hear people’s experiences of if you’ve ever managed to pull a love target back from the brink, e.g. they told you they hated you and no longer wanted to speak to you, they blocked you, started completely ignoring you etc or some situation which looked irretrievable and how you did it.
I have one situation which keeps on see sawing. We’ve fallen out three times now and right now she’s currently ignoring me, the previous two times I used a mixture of candle magick, Sitri, gremory, remote influencing/whispering with success pulling her back from the brink, as well as just being honest with her and telling her I messed up. However I fear this time round it’s more difficult, she hasn’t responded to me in 6 days which is the longest shut out she’s ever put on me.
I’m not blameless in this as I lusted after the result too much due to fatigue- I was abroad in tropical heat and couldn’t sleep properly, I sent her a barrage of needy texts having had very little sleep which were silly but my state of mind just wasn’t clear, I then kept on messaging her getting worried. I finally set the layered love spell on her this week at the point where it looks beyond rescue- obviously I cannot keep lusting and suffocating her with texts or it will probably nullify the layered magick completely, so obviously the best thing for me to do is just do an old fashioned shut-out no contact myself and see when and if she comes back to me and let the final magick I set on her do the trick. I’m finding it quite hard mentally as I’ve not messed up in this way before… the “grateful and quietly confident” mindset of allowing/surrender is now difficult to hold as there’s too much tension (and my mind is racing a lot as I’m annoyed I messed it up), but perhaps the “Don’t give a fuck” and “Whatever happens happens now” mindset may be the only way out of neediness now… I did see someone else mention “The goal is not the result but my Ascension” as a useful attitude to take as well and I have internalised this to an extent (though It doesn’t neccessarily calm me down even when I see the bigger picture!)
What do others think and what experiences do you have of navigating such difficult waters?