Lust spells are love spells really
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She doesnāt have to - the rules regarding a working thread include no moralising at people. You donāt like the OPās stated aims? Great - go read something else.
Otherwise the forum descends into bickering and aggressive name-calling, and worse. You may have not been aware of this rule, you are now.
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That might have been his way of starting the connection. In my experience, men fall in love the opposite way to a lot of women, - women need the connection to want the sex, men need the sex to form the connection.
Thereās nothing wrong with lust as the thing that gets the relationship going, and why not enjoy him for a while anyway?
I used to play the field, looking for casual sex because as an aromantic I didnāt want anything more than a booty buddy - every single guy I had wanted āmoreā and deeper, monogamy and LTRs the lot. I picked them because they were pretty, and said they wanted NSA, and casual - they lied. Fuck a fuckboy well and heās yours.
But be careful, their feelings can be very delicate (they just really donāt want you to know that), so rejecting him could have messed your chances up with this one for god. The good (aka interesting, smart, fun ones) ones have enough pride not to come back for more punishment.
But getting over him is not just an option - itās inevitable. Itās how humans work. Time will fix it for you. The energy feels permanent when youāre in it, but itās really not.
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That can happen astrally, telepathically and via dreams it seems.
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Fair enough
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So whatever ended up happening with this?
Reason Iām asking is, I did a few visualizations on a guy awhile back (oops) and now that Iām moving on (since he hardly speaks to me, just stares at me) and have pulled back, heās been acting jealous and a bit obsessed, like a possessive lover. Weāve never had sex in the real worldā¦ yet we did in the visualizations.
I think Iām having some difficulty understanding what your goal is. So you want him to love you but you have no interest in him sexually? I must be missing something here.
Try Beleth for this guy.
can you explain āvisualizingā to me? iāve been trying and practicing what i understand visualizing is, but havent had any luck at all =/ .
am i perhaps trying to visualize too gigh of a goal?
Yes, you visualize with your third eye what you want to achieve. Just visualizing it is not enough though, you have to feel like you already got what you want.
Look for some visualization exercises to help you.
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aaaaaahhhh!!! the āalready got itā part is what im missing
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The very basis of an emotional connection is the need to procreate and without sex there would be no romantic love because it wouldnāt have ever evolved from itās necessity. Men fall in love after sex because of hardwired biology. The purpose of male love is to insure he sticks around long enough to protect feed and care for the offspring when it is at itās most vulnerable to insure the survival of said offspring.
The female needs to fall in love and have a connection for two reasons. One, to make sure she has chosen the most suitable male for the purpose while she and the offspring are in that vulnerable state. Two, so she unconsciously enacts the cues that will register with the male in order for him to reach the emotional connection. Women only fall in love with the male so that the male will love them enough to stick around to insure the survival of the children.
Female love for a male and male love for a female are completely different human expressions of love. For the male it is a devotional and service based bordering on unconditional for for the purpose of being willing to put up with a significant amount of strife while the female goes through irrational and incomprehensible mood swings and erratic behavior due to hormonal changes and overloads. Female love for a male is nothing more than infatuation based on perceived genetic superiority and certain conditions being met. If the female had any other form of love it would be non beneficial at best and self destructive at worst. The female is designed to 86 the male as soon as he can no longer provide what is necessary. If the horse breaks his leg then its off to the glue factory. This may sound a bit callous but who ever said nature and biology was anything but. The reason being is because of genetic investment. An Island with 100 men and 1 woman can only produce 1 child but an Island with 100 women and 1 man can produce 100 children. The female has a greater genetic investment and is helpless for a good portion of the process and needs the support of the male the male has little investment and doesnāt need the female for anything whatsoever besides companionship and sex.
The only time the male needs a female is if he plans on raising children to adulthood. If the female is absent and the male chooses not to abandon the offspring heās going to need a hand dealing with those kids.
So if you are a male and you want to maintain your relationship then put down the videogame controller and be useful.
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Maybe give freewill a chance. Those are the universal rules in regards to love.
Wow. Thatās pretty deep in regards to the first paragraph in reference to feeling a connection in wanting to have sex vs wanting to have sex to feel a connection. This is so true but Iāve just never heard it placed n2 this context b4. Thatās literally pure wisdom my friend. It may be nothing to you but your words opened my heart because I can see this from a different approach.
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I have to agree. You could really be digging yourself a hole you may not be able to get out of. If he has guardians and you further anger them it could be really bad for you.
What did you visualise doing to him , can you please elaborate