Other people can assist you, guide you, and impart to you through laying hands on you. That being said, the kundalini is a personal experience that only you can actually awaken and raise to full potential. There’s a difference between receiving an impartation of the energy from another person, and actually raising your own kundalini. I received an impartation from my mentor and I experienced the kundalini awakening, but I had to work under his guidance to actually raise my kundalini. The impartation did, however, speed up my own progress and make it easier. The kundalini can be dangerous when raised prematurely or without a proper understanding of it. You should not attempt to raise it without educating yourself or being guided by a competent teacher. So, that being said, I can’t tell you how to find a good mentor. First, all I can say is that when you find him/her, you will know intuitively if he is legit. Your solar plexus will tell you if you’re being conned, and you should always trust that gut feeling. Second, it’s believed by some that the kundalini will begin to awaken naturally when you’re ready, or when “it’s time”. What you choose to believe is up to you. Research it like you’re trying to set the record for most badass researcher ever, and follow your gut. I’m not the type to pay for a guru, but there’s nothing wrong with it. People pay me for mentirship (though not kundalini or any of that sort of thing). But usually the best mentors are the ones you just happen to meet by coincidence, as in a seemingly random synchronicity. My mentor picked me out of a crowd and chose to teach me privately. He said Spirit led him to do so, which in hindsight was probably my spirit guides looking out for me. Sometimes the more you look for something the further away from it you get. You’ll meet the right people if you’re following you true will, your higher self. Does this help you any?