Binding or strengthening the love for others into a long term healthy relationship

Love, Sex Magick & Relationships
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I’m trying something new for me, in using poppet bindings to cement two compatible people, already gf/bf, into a long lasting, lifetime relationship.

Problem is, love though I do, he’s got some narcissistic borderline and extremely histrionic traits, (meaning self-centered and oversexed) and a chronic cheater (intentionally and remorselessly), which she doesn’t know, (yet) so I also want to encourage him to only have eyes for her and not fuck this up.

And I want him gently moved out of my life, in the most beneficial way possible.
So my go-to “death curse everyyyythinnngggg!” is out :joy:

I want her to be tolerant, caring and in love, wanting to keep him around and have him move in even. She’s rich, capable and emotionally intelligent, and will be able to keep him stable and both of them happy.

I have dissolved our Earthy connection with this spell as much as seems practical at the moment, the spiritual connection is fine and I do not typically break spiritual connections, I call them “covenants”, which probably isn’t the right use of that word but it feels right, and I have to assume there’s more going on than my human gestalt is aware of that I don’t want to risk making mistakes with.

Now I’m designing a new spell to order. This involves a woman I don’t know, and comes with the usual caveats of “do your divination to avoid backlash”. I think I can use the past-life aspects in myself that align with the “intranquil spirit” and maybe move that energy into her, and poppet is a good tool for that.
I’m also reviewing this spell for ideas I can incorporate: Love binding using a poppet and an image of yourself

Do you guys have any more ideas for the perfect matchmaker spell that takes two people already together and dial it up to 11 to help them fix their flaws, overcome anything together, need to be together like a married couple and go the distance?

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Maybe a type of vampiric-esque thoughtform on her that keeps him infatuated with her without knowing why? It could feed off his infatuation and grow stronger, keeping him infatuated with her without knowing why/what in particular, and nothing tangible so the novelty wouldn’t wear off.

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I’ve been a lazy fuck (kind of blocked but not fighting it), so I did bugger all, it’s been a month, but so far they’re not fading so I’ll get on this this weekend.

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Ok I came up with the following, which combines 17th century love magick using knot work, aka a witches ladder, which is an implicit binding in my mind, and of course poppets, because that’s my jam. They’re together this weekend so this is perfect.

So this was the whole technique below, and I’ll feed back if things look good or if they eventually split and it failed, hopefully with an analysis of why. All the while my intention is focused and I’m playing gooey love songs from a handy-dandy yt playlist. The female is the focus, she has to forgive him his, ah, foibles, but he’ll very likely stay as loyalty is a value… just not sexually.

First I made a poppet of each person in the couple, and added links that were small pieces of paper with the names and something unique I know about them that describes them.
I infused that paper link with a 3 drops of "Stay With Me Oil I bought form our own BLAG member’s Belladonna’s Botanicals. I added a little lavender and rose petals in both to represent mutual benefit, love, soothing and healing.

For the love binding, I took red yarn, which I attached to her first, then made three knots, and attacked it to him saying “you are bound in love and happiness for the rest of this life, until death do you part.”

Get out of jail free card:
I’m adding an automatic binding break so when one dies the other will not pine. Or if this failed and I want to cancel it. This is represented by a green glass rod (from my glass bead making supplies) - green for healing, glass as it’s breakable, wound into the red yarn binding, to break the binding with if the rod is broken. After that I will burn the poppets to release them totally. Otherwise these will be kept in a box.

(I have a wicker chest with a few poppets in from workings that are still ongoing, I will have to start labeling them to remember which is which soon. :dolls: )

The knotwork is the critical part of the working where the energy really has to move.
I didn’t like the original “spell” that relies on “magick words” but didn’t explain to you, you have to keep your visualization clear during. So, because I think random “magick words” is largely pretty silly, it won’t work for me - I break it with doubt out of the gate, but it doesn’t allow clear attachment to the energy, for me, this must have meaning. So I have edited the knot typing as follows:

  1. Knot one: “You two are bound in mutual respect, attraction and love”
  2. Knot two: “You two are bound in mutual benefit”
  3. Knot three: “You two are bound in shared values and solidarity”

Finally the working is closed out with “And so it IS!” The poppets are wrapped in pink tissue paper and stored away.

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And so it is done. :kissing_heart:

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Dammit, the dude poppet keeps giving me funny looks. I’d tuned his head to look at her but now I posted the pic he’s still doing it. Stop that and relax my bro, you’ll love if and you HAVE to gtfo of my life. :joy:

Opinions/scans on this one welcome. She’s totes into it, as intended, i can feel him fighting me. I might have to top or repeat. We’ll see. He’ll play ball as long as she keeps dishing it up.

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Card: Ghost.
Multiple possible meanings, but:
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Which reminds me of what tox1n said:

So, hopefully the biding is kind of this ^ in in a feedback loop so it’s both of them. Bindings can be thought of as thoughforms, and as such will want to live and survive as any manifest thing does.

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Ooh, so it’s been a few hours. I ran a couple of card pulls before turning in to monitor the situation.

“How’s it going?” - Bailiff.
Oof. This implies I will have to pay a price. Maybe… that “woman unable to see clearly” is me.
How’s he dealing with it?" - Male Warrior
So I might have just made him big mad and that’s the price I have to pay. But he’s sort of like that so… gotta chill out here.

Poop overall it implies his girlfriend doesn’t have what it takes to hold him, magick be damned.
It’s a bit early to say though, I’m not going to naysay the working yet, and will exercise the Law of Assumption, assume I’m lusting for results and not worry about it.

No more card reading until next week, it’s not helping if I’m going to use it as an excuse to doubt my own working. Let the battle of wills with the Male Warrior commence :slight_smile:

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I think it’s working.

Bro is not back at the usual time, the angry/“shit’s not working” energy feeling has lifted. I could guess they were having an argument, and this came just in time to motivate them to get over it, but that’s just speculation…

Decided it would be ok to pull a card to confirm and got “Regenerator”

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I also added a little “fuck off” energy to push on this side of the pull. Just a tad.

Houston, we have go.

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Let’s layer it up in here. … I’m going to the pub to have a drinkie to celebrate. :joy: :tada:
Push it all the way through and get it done.

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It seems to be working. But I’m getting more info from him that it’s more on her side and he’s being pretty manipulative. Starting to feel a bit guilty about that.

The cards are telling me off and taking the opportunity to say this is where a hidden aspect is, that I should examine my controlling behavior (fair, I’m all about reasoned, sensible control to avoid chaotic issues) as this could be a block to spiritual development.

In the Priestess Magician card that came up in a position for “Withheld aspects of the story in question”. In this system the types of mage are included in a progression. I see:

Female adepts often get caught up in the ‘masculine’ control mentality that is so prevalent in Western magic …
This card can also represent a female magician who is a natural leader but has yet to take the deeper step into the shoes of the Hierophant. Once she relinquishes her need for control, the path to the Hierophant opens up and she can step into the new role.

This is very me. I’ve tended to prefer being male and remember more of my male past lives, I was a tomboy and I’m analytical and practical more then feminine or dramatic.

On the other hand I’m more interested in developing as a mage than dealing with the mundane. So I looked up what this system calls a Hierophant.

The role of a Hierophant is to bridge the Inner Mysteries and guide others as they seek a deeper understanding of the powers of Divinity and the inner worlds. Such an act cannot be defined by a religion, a magical path, or a culture: a Hierophant’s work transcends all boundaries and structures erected by humanity.

whereas

The Priestess Magician is a female occultist who is adept at her skills but expresses them through a mostly male-orientated magical system.

So in this system it’s pretty much philosophically what I’m working towards, as I don’t care for religion and I exactly want that connection to the All. The kinds that brings full understanding of self and the universe, and when you grok all you can do all, you have all he Siddhis sort of thing.

I don’t think this is as simple as, “don’t be a controlling dickwad: it’s bad your your soul”. [Said in the voice of Majorkill on youtube, for no reason. (yes, I am that gal.) :joy: ]

This person is a long-standing soul male, 3 or possibly 4 of my past life memories include him as a brother or partner. So what if, what this means is he has a part to play, in mirroring to me my weaknesses so I can work on them?

Ok, fine universe, BE like that. :smiley:

I’ll finish this reading and then do… nothing. The working is in motion, it’s it’s meant to to be it will be smooth and I know I can find other ways to know myself. Curiosity always gets me though, more than needing things tidy, so I’ll not add more layers I’ll just watch for now.

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I’m thinking of trying your binding spell too but it seems complicated

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That’s part of why it works so well imo: kind of the same idea I think in why ceremonal magick is complicated. Focusing on those details with intent for a while inherently causes you to put a lot of energy into the working, and you get out what you put in.

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Well, bad news. That same weekend I did that working, while it was a bit under wraps at the time I learned today they had a fight and are on a pause. He reacted by hitting up an ex who seems to still love him but isn’t in a position or inclined to take him on.

So I pulled a card asking is this is backlash and got Pure Balance. They already cleared the misunderstanding, so it’s possible this is a pendulum swing. All relationships have arguments and working through them together brings more harmony.

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This might be hopium though and I asked again more formally, and git Sol (the sun). Which means success, which sounds like a yes.
I mean, at least something hit or there’s be no ricochet, I’ll let it bake a bit longer.

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I did a very similar working but on my own partner quite a while ago, obviously a bit different since it was reversed with removing other third parties and binding to me. But I digress, the gist of what I did was much the same except I added some dominating aspects so my energy would also kinda overwhelm his into actually putting in the effort. It increased his worries about displeasing me and gave more motivation to actually heal and grow as a person, because despite his many issues we have a soul bound connection going on and are otherwise very compatible.
It’s been quite a few years and it has only gotten more effective over time because I designed it to grow off of itself as well. (And repercussions if it’s gone against by him, but that hasn’t been an issue).

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Awesome, I like those ideas thanks for that.

She’s out of state for 3 weeks so maybe an “absence makes the heart goes fonder” writing and add in that growth element. Also I want divine intro why there was backlash and get around that as much as possible.

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Oh you ALSO default to death cursing people u dont want in your life… splendid LOL.

Also i’d say bind them both together and make it so if he does cheat they’ll sort it out and he’ll receive worse and worse situations in life everytime he cheats until he makes the decision to never cheat again and stay with her.

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Yes, it was E.A. who mentioned in his book Baneful Magick that quite often a death Curse works to remove the person by any means, from death to just losing interest up to getting them a great job that moves them across country and upends their life into something that doesn’t include you.
I’ve found that to be true, so while I’m only death cursing if I wouldn’t hate that outcome, I’m more liberal with it than not. :smiley:

It’s also another one that gets more successful the more often you practice it.

That’s a good idea.

Not only did this dude fly straight to his ex for ah, comfort, on the way back he was already hitting on women in the grocery store and lamenting to me that he wasn’t on form and made rookie mistakes.

He fancies himself a player, you see. If a woman wants to connect, he’s into it only because he might get sex out of it. Maybe I should think about something with Paimon to adjust that attitude.

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Personally i wouldnt touch this task with a 10 foot barge pole simply because your gonna have to change his whole personality and even if you do bind him to this woman successfully without changing any of his personality traits, hes gonna end up feeling depressed and trapped because he seeks the freedom of many woman and if he dont get that its gonna cause him alot of emotional upheaval. But its your energy so lol, you do you. Just seems no matter which way you cut it it has HUGE potential for failure and only a very slim chance of permanent success

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I think that’s true. The more he opens up to me, the more I understand his mindset, the more I think he can’t be changed.

What he wants, is to have his cake and eat it: a wifey at home managing the place and doing the nurturing, nesting thing, AND to be able to play the field.

My main focus has been on the woman, so she can feel secure even if he’s cheating, with my aim that she’d be that wifey, and maybe tone down the pussy hounding a bit.
She’s past child bearing age and is independently wealthy, so no biological clock or support agendas there, and I think there isn’t a risk of him leaving a wifey for a bit on the side, which is why women hate cheating.

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So hes the andrew tate model lol. Interesting.

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