Sadly this is also common when obsession spells work (all obsession spells but this one is particularly prone to it), and few people tell you. To overcome free will you break their minds, and then they are not the person you loved any more.
Sensible! You can hex break the first one and let that settle, and by the time that’s over you should have a better idea and won’t have the liability of a crazy person stalking you. People have died from this kind of thing, please take care and be well.
You’re in trouble - The spirit already did it’s job and is now after you, maybe using his as a weapon, so I think it’s important now that you figure a way out.
Right now you are her get out of jail free card.
Helping her move on as a psychopomp without taking your life ends the chain of suffering.
I’ve done it, it’s not that hard if you have even a little bit of psychic ability to sense ghosts, which almost everyone does - the spirit only thinks it’s trapped and can’t see the door.
- I suggest you evoke her, meet her in that trance state, and hen call for her passed loved ones, parents, grandparents etc to come get her and help her cross over. The spirits usually also needs a little energy to get out of the ghost body.