Also on this, some will not like the idea that they suffered so greatly to change, while they didn’t need to suffer in the first place, but they should not have called on destructive forces if they did not want destruction.
Different spirits can give you the same thing if you ask them, but they have a different style of working.
Say you ask to make someone fall in love with you: some spirits can tear their life apart till they are weak enough and place you in the right spot for things to happen, others can make them suffer mentally until they give in, while others can accomplish it by making them notice your attractive qualities, or by greatly increasing any love or attraction that is already there.
Every force has its place in the universe. Don’t call upon the forces of destruction when you build something up, and don’t call upon forces that build up when you wish to tear down.
When you seek internal change, you usually seek to transmute something, so call upon the appropriate forces, not the forces of chaos and destruction unless you really want to be wounded in the process.