Just got my sisters ashes and hoping to get a necklace that specifically made to hold ashes to hopefully connect with her spiritually.
I feel like i did feel her presence a bit but I don’t know if thats because i was thinking of her and somehow evoked/invoked her or because i had her ashes with me…
Popped into he necromancy section - and, yes. Ashes are a stronger link to the spirit than say, dirt from a grave.
This is what i thought too, thanks!
So if i concentrate my energy and thoughts on her necklace (when it has her ashes in it) like i would with a sigil to communicate, then she should recieve communication from me? I was trying that on the way home from the crematorium with the box that had her ashes so maybe thats why i felt her presence. (Dont worry i wasnt the one driving).
Yes, as long as she’s still around as a ghost. Otherwise what you contact is more like an astral copy of her energy that you are evoking.
If she’s moved on to another incarnation she is unlikely to consciously understand that someone from a past life is trying to contact her. The person she is now might get dreams or a feeling of being watched, but won’t have any frame of reference to put them into context. Assuming she’s human, that pesky “veil” thing kind of gets in the way there.
It’s so soon it’s probably that she hasn’t moved on yet.
I would caveat that in many traditions, it’s believed that if you try to attract the ghost you can prevent them from moving on and stagnate their spiritual journey. Or worse cause them to attempt to cling to their qi body which turns them vampiric. There’s traditions that have rules like “do not mention the departed’s name for a year” to try to avoid holding them back.
This is the reason the Chinese call ghosts “hungry ghosts” and how the myths of vampires started. As ghosts need human qi - which they no longer have a physical body to create for themselves - they start to take if from the living. In this case that could be you. This can cause illness and stress, obsessive thoughts of the departed and overall be harmful to both parties.
On the other hand many ghosts have a lot of fear about moving on, or they just want to cling to the living to “live” viscerally through them. There are ghosts of addicts that hang around the hospitals they died in that attach like parasites to patients and make them addicts (ref: “The Unquiet Dead” book)
Another circumstance where ghosts are retained on purpose are the spirits of lineage masters in martial arts or spiritual orders. These people are usually expected to be adepts of energy working and are able to sustain their ghosts without resorting to vampirism, but are assisted via offerings. This is why offerings as a practice are used in the occult even for the entities that don’t need it as as they are not ghosts.
Without taking energy from humans she will fade and die the 2nd death sooner or later - also called “moving on”. You can continue talking to her but at this point you’re talking to the recorded copy or “shade”.
Unless… you use time travel intentionally in meditation, then you can go back to talk to her spirit at another point in time, but again she will not be overtly conscious of this, though her subconscious will know - and if you do this then you already did it and you might have seen the signs while she was alive.
My understanding is that she chose to become a ancestral guide or just guide instead of reincarnation. So shouldn’t i be able to contact her? Does her ghost form “die” if she’s “evolved” to be a guide? (From your reading but also my intuition).
I don’t want to hold her back but my understanding is that she chose not to incarnate again and to be a guide instead.
Also i cant control my family or other people saying her name. Although i did ask Hecate to help her heal and stuff so I do feel good that she will recieve whatever aid she might need.
I think you can contact her under any circumstances. I just enumerated the common circumstances in which people interact with ghosts generally.
As an ancestor that’s more like the martial arts master situation. Those guys get a shrine and offerings to help sustain them, they are often in contact with other ancestors of the lineage as well, if there are any.
I just dont want to contact a astral copy of her. I want to contact HER. If that makes sense. From my understanding she was learning to be an ancestral guide which i assume means learning how to sustain herself in a healthy manner.
The energy felt very much like the energy left over of her in her bedroom. Its only been 2 weeks since she passed and that energy hasnt left yet. I mean from her bedroom. Still feels and smells like her. Plus all her belongings in it…
I dont want my grief to impact her negatively either.
Yes I can see that. We had a conversation about her maybe being a guide, but that was one reading, and one reading is unverified UPG by definition… it’s not a verified fact. I think your best best is to contact her asap while she is still strong and ask her for her opinion.
I am aware. I also just felt even before the reading and regardless of it that she most likely chose not to incarnate again.
No , ashes of dead may attract some harmful badass spirits , you can evoke her and make it with you usually , without keep any part of her body of her with you