Just wanted to elaborate on why Eva said her thing, she wasn’t implying that Wrath had never had success. Only that sex is already magical enough for the monkey mind, that it is not hard to see why people place importance on it in magic.
As for why they put such importance, off the top of my head it has life-based symbolism in that it gives birth to spells, egregores, magic, etc. through the life-giving, generating, and ‘‘creative’’ forces, which go in the flow of the universe’s ‘‘more life for all’’ view.
It can also be seen in a more destructive or transformative way, as an internal death during the orgasm, with a strong build up, and the massive consequences of that. And yeah, it does tie into energy and all of that stuff mentioned above.
There is also passion as a dangerous, but strong tool, not just in a sexual context.
It can be a useful, albeit distracting, catalyst. I dn’t think that many people elevate it as the single-most important and powerful form of magic ever though.
As for what you’re speaking of, in terms of ‘‘altering the code rather than the data’’ or the ‘‘lines of the world rather than the energy present’’, it certainly is possible, though ultimately harder, which is why that kind of magic is something I(based on recommendations from a friend) labelled reality hardware magic, as it alters reality on a more direct way rather than having to jump through hoops of causality, probability and all that as with most human magics.
Both have their merit, in that you’d use reality software for more everyday things, and reality hardware for major things. Literally encoding and warping reality isn’t something you’re gonna do to get a job or a girlfriend…though it does depend on the job and the girl.
I don’t think anyone was elevating it all that high. It’s a thing, that people do. It’s not THE THING, that ALL people HAVE TO do.
EDIT TO ADD: And yeah, androgyny, and asexuality are both a thing. Though asexuality is often a lack of attraction, especially to humans, rather than a ‘‘natural’’ celibacy. Once again, it depends.