The best thing to do is to improve yourself. Make yourself a better person in every way. Work out. Eat right. Learn new skills. Go to therapy and explore yourself. You don’t want someone you have to manipulate into being with you. That’s not love.
Improve yourself. If she sees that, over the span of months or years, maybe she’ll return. But by that point, you might even see that she was right and have moved on yourself.
Thank you. I’m just so petty about how I did everything for nothing. But I dont really understand why do you recommend me that but not any other person on here? Because like I said Ive seen a lot of posts asking for help with making an ex go back.
Well, I’ve never responded to those. But if I did, I’d say the same thing. It’s nothing personal to you. I just happened to log on and see this post. Consider it serendipitous if you want to put a Jungian/magical spin on it.
(Excuse my deleted post. I wasn’t sure if I properly replied to you specifically.
@DarkPriorities I realise you think you are being helpful, but it’s against the rules to moralize on this forum. This is a working thread and responses that assist the working are required. In addition you may not be disrespectful to other members simply because their choice is not your choice.
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Apologies.
As much as i dont agree with your motivations i will give u advice on this.
If you want to keep her around, bind her to you
If you want her to love you, influence her mind to keep thinking positively of you and then do a love spell
If you want her to want *** with you, then create in her lust for you and use the fire element in your working.
You can do all 3, one of them or 2 of them, whatever.
If you want her to only have you, permanently, bind her to never have another partner other than you.
Please keep in mind that love spells dont really create “real” love, although it may feel like it. If you want to go the longer and more strategic route, you can do the one above this paragraph and then work on her mind long-term.
Bind her to meet people who will tell her to forgive you repeatedly,
Influence her mind to think positively of you,
Influence her mind to dwell on you (domination magick)
Influence her heart to lust for you
Then when you meet up with her again, be kind and apologize for anything you did and say that you missed her. Go from there and let love be kindled again naturally.
Magick isnt always a one-ritual and done thing. Sometimes you have to strategically plan the rituals and spells to get the best out of them. Sew the seeds, let them grow, and harvest the rewards.
If you do this, please treat her well and dont use her.
Id also suggest you do things to improve yourself while all this is stewing in her so she sees you as a better candidate for dating.
if you want to conjure a demon for it, Prince Sitri is pretty good with Lust and Duchess Gremory is good for procuring love.
How do I protect myself from any of these backfiring/ending badly?
The only way spells backfire is if the person in question is protected spiritually, in my experience.
Preventative methods are:
@Wumbats This post applies to everybody, it’s a general forum rule that you do NOT moralize on a working thread.
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Actually the forum is full of them. You are not the first person to say they want the person they claim to love to be in pain at the same time as wanting them to love them. I have given the exact advice @Michellekabod has given above more than once. I agree with him this isn’t moralising it contributing to a plan for the working.
Basically you need to make your mind up and resolve your own inner conflicts, or your magick will also be conflicted and work against itself, causing at best nothing to happen, and at worst unexpected results that you might not like.
We’re not saying then “don’t do it” we’re saying get your whole being in alignment to give your magick the best chance of success.
Also this ^
Like attracts like, and strength is attractive, to attract her, forgive her as you want her to forgive you. Then your attraction spell is not being compromised with pain and anger.
I actually am working on it and doing it slowly, I’m not going to use magick yet, I know I need to heal first and that’s what I am currently going through. The thing is, I am planning on doing what I posted about in the future, probably in a couple of months since we planned to reconnect next year to catch up on each other. I would want her to reach out much earlier though and to rekindle everything.
That could work depending on her personality. Does she take time to make decisions and make up her mind carefully based on all the available info? Or does she act hastily and emotionally? Or maybe it’s a bit of both, she’s made up her mind for good reasons but enforces them emotionally?
If there’s any kind of solid reasoning that is logical and not emotional to her distancing herself, then it’s a waste of time appealing to emotion without addressing the underlying issue.
Is it not possible for any of possible spells to work if she’s stubborn about her decision and it’s logical to her?
Yes, in that case attraction isn’t usually the issue, circumstances need to change or her preferences need to be persuaded.
Paimon and Dantalion are known for helping persuade people to see your side of things.
Sometimes the issue is physical, like location or financial, then you want to do work to change the psychical environment.
Sometimes its’ to do with other people, like disapproval from parents or friends, and then persuasion on those people helps.
Logical decisions must be made on the available data, so if you change the data, then the decisions no longer apply and can be reevaluated.
What if it comes from me hurting her before? I didn’t do anything big like cheating etc. though and genuinely changed from how I would behave before, but she said it really messed up with her and she does not want to continue being with me despite the change. If it matters, I was being really toxic at times. I am working on myself though, like I said and a lot changed already. She does not really want to talk to me but I can text her anytime. Talking face to face ain’t an option, she lives far away now.
What I need is a step by step instruction on what should I do? Do I stop interacting with her completely even though she still likes my insta stories and texts when she needs me emotionally? And so, do I then cast spells? If yes, which and how? I read a lot about it on the forum and I am very lost. I don’t know if I should just use an obsession spell with blood magick or love spell, sweetening one or what? Communication? I need help with this, and I really don’t feel ready to ask any entities/deities for help with any spells yet (unless angels). Even though I’m not religious, I feel like I can’t completely get away from Christianity — please don’t judge me on this.
Sounds like a case of broken trust, and that’s very hard to regain, especially if the risk-reward radio doesn’t make it worth taking the risk.
Communication. You have to to be able to show her what you are doing to fix your issues, that you are listening to her needs and you can’t do that unless you talk, calmly, sensibly, and openly.
I don’t advise obsession spells because they cause madness, and you want her as she is, not a crazy version of her that acts weird and isn’t the person you used to love any more.
Thank you for your help. 
She said talking to me is tiring to her so would a communication spell help with it or would it be just like if she forced herself to? I don’t want it to have a bad outcome. She’s obviously tired of me but somehow she didn’t block me anywhere, and today she said we are good and so on good terms. Just nothing more.
After that, should I use anything like that sweetening or love spell? One after another, one at a time?
That means she doesn’t enjoy your conversations. This is more like you needing learn better communication skills. You could look up a few pointers on youtube for how to communicate with diplomacy and tact.
Ask her what she needs from you and then be silent and let her talk. Don’t try to defend yourself, correct her or explain - yet - just listen and let her get it all out. If you’re not clear on a point, repeat her words as question so she elaborates. Women’s reward centers light up more than men’s when they talk, so just talking by itself feels good to her and helps her feel good about talking with you - let her do most of the talking, stay very, very calm, but look interested, and remember nothing is personal, it’s how she feels and is not that much about you.
No she already loves you, that’s never been the issue.
You hurt her, that’s the issue. Stop doing that, get her to trust that you won’t, have value to her to fix it, and then you’ve got a chance.
She actually said she does not love me anymore. That’s why I am considering casting a love spell at some point.