I really need your help with a problem, an obsession issue more precisely.
I have a boyfriend, we have been together for 4 years till now. I also have a crush on a ex co-worker who also has a girlfriend. I did not like him at first, almost despised the fact that he wanted to be surrounded by good looking girls.
After a while I discovered he is very nice to me and tooks my side in front of my boss (who is an idiot). I was chilly chill until I heard he will go to another work place. It was sad because I found out he was a lot like me. We seldom said the same thing in the same time, agreed to several topics, looked at each other and instantly understood what the other one felt. I have not seen him since the begining of March and I miss him a lot. I constantly fantasize about him ( sex, romance, even fighting with his gf) and I know this is not ok for all the parties involved.
I am finding reasons to write him, I was careful not to start romantic or sexual topics with him, he is acting nice but does not initiating any topic.
I did not perform any binding, love spell because I wanted this to be mutual.
I want to stop thinking about him, reaching to him, obsessing about him. If my relationship will end up with a brake-up I want to be something natural not because of a guy.
I would gladly appreciate any advice from you, guys!