Hi! Ive been trying to research spells to do on my avoidant boyfriend (self admited avoidant) so he will stop randomly ignoring me but then spend the whole night playing games with our friends. I know from just that description alone he seems really mean but I promise most days hes really sweet, and thats why im determined to do this spell instead of just dipping (；′⌒`) most research i try to look into leads me to tiktok but alot of posts on there are either aimed at people who want their exes back or fearmongery/misleading/baiting you into paying for them to do the spell, and i just want to hear the best way to go about this! (￣┰￣*) this guy is my 3rd boyfriend and out of all 3 he is the nicest and weve been together longer than the other 2 combinied, i feel like he gets scared about being to clingy but also i am really clingy and get super upset when he gets into a state of ignoring me and become avoidant myself if it goes on for extended periods of time (which has only happened once)
anyways.. pls help! what spells do you do on an avoidant boyfriend?
PS. (my bf knows i do spellwork cuz i told him about spells i did previous to us dating that were on him , he was a little spooked but accepted it and said hed let me do more spells on him in the future)
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This is due to childhood trauma, and is a self-protection trait. So if you try to do work to force it, that will be seen as an attack subconsciously, probably make it worse and trigger more avoidance, maybe even a breakup.
The more you try to force an avoidant the more justified they feel in avoiding you. You can;t be so full-on. “Gently gently catchy monkey”
Also heal yourself - you are what’s called an Anxious Attacher, which is also not healthy. Secure Attachers have the best chance of staying wit Avoidants.
Then make sure he has conscious consent and that might help - but this is deep in his psyche and he doesn’t have conscious control of it.
Healing is the way. To get him into a secure attachment style.
thankyou for this!!! ill be sure to ask him about it and work on myself! ive already started a little bit, in terms of viewing myself more positively and also not taking things as harsh as i used to which has helped me alot so far, i feel this is the final thing to make things better again so thanku! (‾◡◝)
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Well those are not deities - Marbas is from the Ars Goetia 9 one of the the books in the Lesser Key of Solomon) and has gained a reputation for healing, and Raphael is an angelic who’s name means the “Healing of God”.
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