Hi,
My younger brother had severe ADHD and obsession as a child and did not have the necessary follow-up in doing things and goals, and this constantly bothered him. After hours of therapy and psychotherapy, his problem was not solved. So much so that he left the university. He hates himself more and more day by day and goes so far that he sees no hope for himself to continue and considers suicide to be the only solution to the problem. Please help.
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Getting pushed towards learning styles that are well know not to work for ADHD people doesn’t help. To me, I think he got really bad advice, and he’s beating himself up for not following other people’s ideals, and needs to find his own way that works with how he thinks.
And uni is trash these days, don’t waste your money.
Although. he’s done great in that he got in to Uni, and I think he should give himself credit for all he’s already achieved.
My son is ADHD and decided early on he hates adademics, and went to technical school. He’s doing auto shop… The hands on work is way better that trying to make him sit at a desk. And kind of trade skill is in high demand and he’ll never be out of work if he goes that route. He could have his own business before hes thirty, and pay other people to do the boring paperwork and marketing side.
Not having his own brother think he’s cursed would be a great start to supporting him in a world that’s messed up. He’s not really the one with the problem here, except that his problem is other people’s expectations and closed minds.
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I gave my child this same advice. He has ADHD and autism and while he’s only 9 and still has a ways to go before graduating HS, I told him early on and will keep telling him that I would support any decision he makes for post HS education. He struggles with academics and learns better through hands-on work. I told him there’s nothing wrong with trade school or getting a license or certificate and depending on what field said license or certificate is in, he’ll always find a job, even in trying times.
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Thank you very much for your advice. But what bothers my brother the most is that we, as family or friends, never pressured him at all, and whenever he made a decision to start a something, we, and myself in particular, tried our best to accompany him. The problem is that he starts something and leaves it quickly and does not have the motivation to continue.
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He sounds like me in some ways. I used to be a constant daydreamer in classes and got ridiculed when interrupted and said something about my mother.
So, let him know hes not alone in this type of battle in the world we live in, and that like a few pointed out - he needs to learn what he wants and pursue them as difficult as it may be.
Honestly, this world sucks a lot because of closed minded insensitive people.
But … it can get better … and he will get better when he finds his own path in life for what he wants to see accomplished. If he doesnt accomplish it, well, its not the end of the world there either.
Suicide … yokes, vistied that yard quite a few times myself. Not the answer to most problems in life. Not the answer for him either. He needs to know and accept this fact. He needs love and support.
I’m not sure you can reasonably say this. You don’t know his mind.
Again, you might feel this way and he may have a very different perception.
If you’re asking for magick help, I’d consider having a meditation with him. Find a simple and short guided one online and play it for him. Tell him it’s fine it he moves around and maybe even give him a crystal/rock/something small to hold onto and play with if he gets restless. Meditation helps with lots of things including nerves, motivations (feelings of being in control of one’s life), and anxiety. It could probably help him if he learns to practice it.
My best advice though, is for you. And it’s to go do some research on ADHD and stop thinking he’s been cursed. That’s judgmental and you are inherently pressuring him to be someone he is not by believing this. So go do some research, and be helpful in ways that are constructive instead of criticizing.
I have ADHD. A lot of the time it is comorbid with other disorders like OCD and/or anxiety, especially if it is untreated. I never finished high school and I’ve never been to university and I do just fine and make a comfortable living. Like your brother, I rarely finish anything I start; I might become obsessed with something for a time but I lose interest and motivation extremely quickly.
Me, I don’t think of it as a curse or hex. It’s just that your brother’s brain does not chemically and physiologically work the same way as other peoples’. I don’t think a banishment, exorcism, or any kind of curse removal/uncrossing will necessarily be helpful for your brother. If anything I would be looking at supportive measures, like trying rituals which support your brother in maintaining a schedule, sticking to goals long-term, finishing projects, and things of that nature.
To add to that: the same way I would never dream of telling a cancer patient to cease chemotherapy/radiation treatment and try using crystals and homeopathy and rituals for healing alone, I would not tell someone with ADHD to rely solely on magick. Magick can support real-life endeavours to heal, but in cases like this, medical intervention & advice from a licensed professional is the best possible thing.
I encourage you not to think of your brother as hexed or cursed, or to support him in this belief if he expresses the same. Acknowledge that the issue exists, and then work to support him in coming to terms with it, developing ways to cope with it (hopefully under professional advice), and direct any magickal effort toward encouraging better strategies and coping methods. Which may include proper medication.
Best of luck to you and your brother 
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Great points, I may try this myself.
Great points, this may be useful to me as well.