Yes and your quite within your rights to demand honest answers from the spirits that working with. That’s actually a very good practice.
I find it super hard to believe that Lilith would have a great deal of interest in working with a hateful misogynist.
If he was polite and respectful and did his best to communicate diplomatically with her. She’s still completely within her right to ignore him, not answer his calls, or if he isn’t careful he could be deceived or deluded by her sure.
That’s entirely possible you’re right.
Edit update: I’m very polite in my work with spirits but not all spirits are going to jive right and resonate well with the individual practicioner. Some spirits have slammed the door in my face or told me they weren’t interested in my proposal. It happens.
I’ll be honest, if you read where Lilith comes from, she’s came from folklore that she was Adams first wife. I don’t believe she or Adam ever existed as physical beings, they are egregoric ideas meant to carry a teaching story, and I think you’re trying to push it too far, well beyond what the story was meant to convey.
So no, it’s not a woman, a female demon or anything like that. It’s a collection of energy fed by the human collective imagination. It is sentient because all energy is sentient. The weight of expectation behind that collective in relation to your personal energy is what’s going to shape your experience.
The long and short is, no matter what the opinions here are you won’t know how the version you contact will behave until you ask it yourself.
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If you’re (in general) afraid because you consider that your personality is hateful and disrespectful toward femininity (or we can reverse the gender), maybe don’t evoke them. Your fear isn’t going to make anything better. It will only show that you disrespect a spirit.
In keeping with other posts, I don’t believe many spirits have definitive (human) genders/sexes. Regardless though, if you’re being disrespectful to something a spirit has an attachment to, it might hinder results. Meaning, if you call Lilith, who is called upon a lot for working with and protecting women, knowing you hate women your results might not be what you want.
I suppose it also depends on the purpose. It make sense that if I call on Lilith to harm women it will probably not work because Lilith is called to protect women. However, Lilith is also known as the queen of vampires and is therefor knowledgable about that subject, so it do make sense to me that the misogynist would invoke her if he is interested in the practice of vampirism.