As I’ve said in other threads you quite possibly create your afterlife and I know in the book I’m reading Asenath says to create or envision your kinks and everything in dream, astral, and in spirit lovers. The part that gets me is the “imagination” and not a hard set rule to put doubt out the window.
As to trans MTF it might be best to go to one of the pay-gold sites where you pay for a gold membership (or try discord). Those sites wont’ get you shit if you’re a free person going there and if you are MALE or identity you might get some scrutiny as to why you’re there (which seems bigoted). If you pay (I’ve considered) your choices to actually chat, look at pictures, and more become open but we’re talking anywhere from 13-30+ $ a month.
Its best if you put what you are looking for and what you are. Now, I’m a tad bit of a novice but you’re either a bottoms or tops or dip into both. Many of the profiles I see are MTF that identify as women and so they’re not going to be TOPs wanting BJs and giving you divine anal pleasures (despite what the pornhub shows). Seems a lot of the “hot” ones are near models and probably paid well.
Disease, well, honestly with any sexual relationship I’d say that both get a STD blood test and check up together. It seems like a mood killer but being safe is being safe and condoms just are barely a roadblock. The horny are going to fuck and throw caution to the wind.
Also, on the tops/bottoms debate. You might be able to enjoy being a tops or maybe “barter” a bit if in a long term sexual relationship. Might not pan out so move on. From what I’ve read is absolute desperation like its some One-shot-chance or that’s it and the person is going to just die otherwise. Can’t be too clingy either. Some of these people are still going through their transformations but finances are slowing them down. And of course you have all the other pressures associated in their life like bigotry, fear, and personal issues that might be shame, rejection issues, etc. Its like anyone really but amplified with the sexual bigotry. Its better mind you. Hell, I had cousins that would go out queer hunting with baseball bats and I generally thought it was damn brutal and wrong. Fortunately, they lived a long ways away so we’d only hear about it through gossip.
Now, say you want one who’s into the occult, spirits, and more and you might be even more hard pressed. And you really, as a guy have to look in the mirror, and gauge yourself on this (age, physic, financial security, personality, and confidence). I can read about all this but experience is probably quite different. So, perhaps for those who fantasize about the ultimate futa harem should just go with spirits. I suppose you can hope they don’t judge that as a horrible kink (I don’t see why they would but I haven’t heard anyone question spirits on this stuff and tell all the answers).
“Hey Asmodeus, Lucifer, Lilith, Baphomet, Azazel! What do you think about sucking cock, slurping snatch, titty purrs, butt-fucking, and cum dump bukake baths?”
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Internet chat and spirits is about the most I’ll probably do. At the end of the day all I really want is my own pad living all ALONE. I mean no one can get in your way and tell you this or that and move your shit where you rage or are flustered. Might be a tad lonely but damn… its yours. Oftentimes after the lust leaves me I look at the idea in absolute exhaustion. Also, my checklist doesn’t have so many checks on it and I’m getting older and older. Comes a time when the physical seems ridiculous.
