You´re welcome. Tanarawewah!
Incubi and succubi like humans a lot, especially those involved with magic. In addition to giving them a vision of the material world from an unprejudiced mind, we offer them something they love: sensations. They have a natural curiosity about things, apart from being fascinated by “materic” sex.
Most come from a state of darkness or “non-existence” - someday I will talk more in depth about this and the spiritual and theological connotations-. Interacting with us puts them in a state of “existence”, which is why they tend to become significantly addicted to humans. This is what has made them scary for some people and has contributed to their bad reputation. Something I consider understandable but quite unfair.
If you want to be a good partner for a lilitu, you will need to be patient, open minded. Communicate well with the entity from the beginning and study as much as you can.
Knowledge is power, but you will also encounter bad books along the way. I am compiling a list and would like to make a post about it later.
Forget the nineteenth-century conception that a lilitu is going to absorb your energy as if you were a bubble tea and they had the straw. I do not mean to minimize the bad experiences that some people have had with evil spirits, but that is another topic for discussion.
In general, any spirit that you approach with affection and respect will respond in the same way.
I think it was Borroughs who said that it took brave magicians to deal with these entities, record their experiences and share them with others. The good thing about this century is that we have it so much easier because of the amount of knowledge and connections we have at our fingertips