Maybe its northern people.
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Same as you guys, we want to get fucked like itās 1999! Thatās all anyone really wants right? No seriouslyā¦ I want the typical cave man alpha male shit. To stop playing roles defined by modern culture and be our animal selves, straight, gay, man, woman, we just want to be what nature intended and get it on. Male-female and masculine-feminine are not the same thing. But regardless, Iām full of testosterone and I want my woman to be a woman. Thatās all. I want respect. I want to be able to be who I am, wake up in the morning with my morning wood and have animalistic sex, then eat my eggs she cooked, go to work for 10 hours and come home to see my clothes washed for tomorrow, dinner cooked, Etc. I fit the gender stereotype I guess, and i donāt apologize for it. I work longer hours, make more money, and pay more bills than my wife, so to balance out the responsibilities we share: I want her to take care of business at home while Iām busting my ass. I built my career with these hands and I went out to find a worthy mate. Thatās generally a manās way. I also want my wife to work on her dreams, and as she does I want us to share responsibilities equally. As her hours at work increase, Iāll pick up my share of laundry and dishes. Iāll never be a bitch in the bedroom, no matter who is more productive financially. Why? Because my nature is to be a fucking man. I like to be dominant. I donāt like easy women. I like to pursue my date, talk to her like a silverback gorilla talks to a potential mate, and take her home to make her my submissive in bed. If she turns out to be a loyal and modest woman, it will be long term and Iāll make myself available to her emotionally after some serious coaxing on her part, as Iāve done now. It wonāt happen quickly, but while this process happens I wonāt play the field because I have a potential homemaker. Thatās how I feel. Too honest? 
I canāt carry a child in my womb, so thereās naturally a difference between me and my wife. My wife nurtures and tends and cares while I provide for us and kill our enemies and neutralize threats. Itās evolution honey. Men want to do what comes naturally, fuck attractive women and when they find one whoās compatible, make children and provide for the whole bunch. Men and women deviate from these roles, and thatās nothing against gay people. Weāre talking about straight men. Even straight men have gay thoughts at times. But even in LGBTQ relationships donāt they still have one person in the dominant role. My gay friends tend to. That tends to be the more masculine person, and in heterosexual relationships like mine, thatās me. Men whose wives dominate tend to resent them over time.
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No, there are a lot of men everywhere who equate being dominant with being an overly aggressive asshole, but it just shows their immaturity. They are considered to be ignorant and dangerous in the BDSM community because they really donāt understand the true dynamic of dominance and submission. Unfortunately, naive submissives who are new to the scene are easy pickings for these types because they donāt know any better.
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I get what your saying and being submissive ā¦I really donāt have much problem with what you said.
But I was married and when I stayed home I treated my ex like a king. I cooked , cleaned, did the laundry ā¦fixed his plate and took it to him while he was propped up in a reclinerā¦ I laid his clothes out on the bed for him tI get dressed and go to work even took him his shoes.
I didnāt mind any of that bc I stayed home. Literally all he had to do was work and do the lawn.
But the problem was when I went to work. . The only part of this picture that changed was that I also worked 8 hours a day.
So things finally went bad. Really bad
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The man in question missed the second part of what I said. Share responsibilities. Before my wife got pregnant she worked as much as me and I did my own laundry. I didnāt like it and I took a better job (better in pay, not in hours) so she could stay home when she got preggo.
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Holy crap! this thread blew up overnightā¦
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I think my emphasis too was more on the courting role than on the marriage role. The dominance in dating and sex
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Who are you referring to? I donāt get your āman in questionā reference.
The odds do not favour longevity as you turn into a housemaid doing work weāre taught is demeaning (even though itās not demeaning in the least to maintain a stylish & organised home), and she meets other guys who she doesnāt have to see wearing an apron and worrying about which brand of powder to use on delicates.
Iāve seen a LOT of peopleāas relationships go that way and for what?
Very few women have careers that are worth a damn, they usually have jobs which they cordially loathe and end up on psychiatric medication from, and/or massive alcohol problems they totally deny, because wine is French and therefore classy.
So they can say they tried the āequalityā illusion, which is in fact ALWAYS an attack on the feminine, by making out everything we traditionally did was trash and best avoided.
You seem to be operating as a team, there is in my opinion literally no value in tossing that out of the window because since 1970 everyone said you should.
Meh.
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Ah. Thanks for the clarification.
I like your style lady. Honestly, thatās what a man wants, and doesnāt even mind being the primary bread winner if his woman does her part at home. Not saying a woman canāt have a career. Equality doesnāt mean āsameā.
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I will say what I really like about D/s relationship that I think vanilla relationships generally miss the mark on is that the roles are more clearly defined
I know as Daddyās babygirl what is expected of me. I know what the consequences are if I mess up.
And he knows what is his responsibilities to and for his babygirl are.
And thatās not saying that we donāt mess up and make mistakes ā¦we doā¦ but our relationship is clearly defined and if we need to make adjustments we can.
Like for example babygirls bedtime is 3am. And Daddy usually tucks me in and does the Moster check and turns on my night light. 
But my current magick work has thrown that off ā¦someā¦
But Daddy isnāt being an evil tyrant .that insists on babygirl going to bed right thenā¦
He been very encouraging and a strong support system for babygirl. .
Thatās what I like. I know Daddy is there and I know if he feels for my safety or health he needs to step in and make adjustments he will.
But he will also encourage me and help me anyway he can.
And babygirl helps Daddy. But we both know our roles and Daddy is always the Dominant one and babygirl is always the submissiveā¦
But I have a great Daddy who always considers babygirls happiness and feelings. 
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And isnāt that a natural role for you., and him? Thatās what Iām saying for the most part. What comes natural, you really donāt have to think too much about. Thatās what tends to work for the most part, what is natural. As the alpha silverback beats his chest, so too do I.
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No. These guys were verbally and physically abusive jerks. Not saying all are, just the ones I unfortunately know.
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What does make me wonder is why men are viewed as weak when theyāre vanilla. I have no problem being a jerk ā¦ However, I will never ārough upā a woman, and one reason Iām not interested in BDSM.
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BDSM has nothing to do with abuse or āroughing upā a woman, Fuego. Itās completely different.
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Example ā¦ I have never been in a fistfight. I have been strongarm pressed, with a hunting knife to my neck, had a gun shoved in my face, and been hit or shoved to the floor by ignorant people.
The reasons why are that I fear I can defend myself (I can) and become overadrenalized (I have been), possibly murdering someone in self defense. Passion can increase adrenaline, rare but it can. Another reason why Iām vanilla and like to verbally deescalate a dangerous scenario.
Daddy has stated this and I have found it to be very true .
Daddy would never ever hurt babygirl, outside of our kinky play time. And Daddy always gives babygirl way to express that for any reason what we are doing needs to stop. ā¦ Daddy even asks babygirl several times during a scene if we need to stop or if Iām ok to continue. ā¦it is always up to babygirl if the scene continues. .
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