As title says, I’ve been in a brief romantic situation a few months ago (from March!!) and I still can’t let it go. I’ve pretty much exhausted all divination methods to find out more info but that’s still not enough for me and am considering getting back into more serious magic and pacts to get what I want.
I won’t lie to you, I know it’s obsessive. How do I work around that? I can’t tell if there’s more to it or if it’s just me feeding into it. I feel like if it was simple obsession it would have went away by now, but it keeps resurfacing. I don’t even know what I’m asking for, I’m just a bit exhausted. Help appreciated.
It’s possible a parasitic attachment feeding on your pain, a good banishing will help if that’s part of it.
Then set up wards and shields so you are not attacked again.
I should check for any parasitic entities, thanks for reminding that.
Thing is, I would like to reconnect with said person, even if I don’t really know anything about them (friend of a friend of a friend), that’s why I’ve been busy with divination and considering path opening rituals. And there’s no emotional pain, really, just lots of yearning I suppose, still feelings a parasite could feed off of.
Well, is that because you’re obsessed and not yourself, or because you are in love? Obsession is a mental-emotional disorder not love. If it’s the former it’s probably not reciprocated and feeding into it will make you feel worse, more exhausted and lonely, until you eventually heal from it anyway. And then you might wonder what you saw in her.
“When you are sick of being sick, you will get well again.” If you feed this thing now you will only enable the pain to go on longer. But with the same outcome in the end.
I suggest a divination first and see if there’s potential in the relationship.
There’s an entity in Goetia Pathworking that can help you do this.
Gusion:
Sense emotional potential. When you meet somebody that you like, or when a relationship has begun, this power can help you sense the future of your feelings for the person who currently attracts you. This can save you time if you don’t feel much, or it can help you nurture the relationship if you sense that it’s valuable.
Hargrove, Corwin. Goetia Pathworking: Magickal Results from The 72 Demons (Magick of Darkness and Light) (p. 56). Kindle Edition.
Or tarot but these are harder to interpret than the intuition from a sigil working.
I’d say if that is very positive (not mixed, but all out 'this is a great thing" positive) then go for it.
In any case I’d also say do the shadow work (introspection) on why you feel this way, it’s not always what you think. is there a trauma bond? Is it an animal lust thing? Is there a past life connection? It’s good to know all these things, and use them to learn about who you are.
Well I don’t think I’m in love, I don’t really have anything to fall in love with to start, our interaction was very brief but charged. I guess it’s more projection on my side and lust, mystery driven.
I do remember doing a tarot reading a while ago and I remember that there was potential for reconnection/ meeting again.
It’s just odd that I’ve had romantic interactions before, I’ve been on dates, I’ve been in limerance with people, but sheesh, this doesn’t even feel like limerance anymore, it just feels like “I have to reconnect again, I have to know more about them”.
Even when I lose interest in this person, after a couple months it comes back around.
Idk, I doubt it. Perhaps he did it subconsciously? (I’ve asked my friend what he knows and he said his friends always see him with some other girl every time).
The night we met I was the one who was more flirty and gave up towards the end cuz it felt like a brick wall, but then right at the end he reciprocated. Yes, I was obsessed for a little while, saw him a week later with another woman, spiral again, yes I did a bit of a love spell sorta thing (which ig could backfire, but it wasn’t anything too hardcore), life happened, I forgot about it for about 2 months but then the thought just keeps crossing my mind.
It’s like I can’t forget about it. And to top it off, I dream abt him for 2 days in a row now. Not even anything I could blame on horniness or something like that, it’s just his presence is there in the dream. Or I dream that he’s looking at me. Mind you this didn’t even happen when I was really obsessed months earlier.
Then it would seem your spell did indeed backfire and hit you instead of the target. You will likely either need to let it run its course, or reverse the spell.
I suppose, although I doubt it’s from that idk. It was a sigil on a bar soap, that soap’s been gone for ages now. I did always have bad luck with anything love related lol.
I think DarkestKnight nailed it; a new episode of When Love Spells Go Bad.
Backfire of a curse nearly killed me, I messed with the wrong witch I guess.
When you objectively look at the synchronicity of events that occur that line up with what the spell was supposed to do, if it lines up near exactly, it seems it backfired.
Yeah, I did some divination, it definitely backfired and affected me more than anything. I’m going to close everything off and just go on with my life. It did confirm another meeting in 2026 but not how or where. Oh well, I’m pushing it out of my mind, especially after the tarot reading revealed he’s not invested.
When I had this kind of obsessive situation, I found it helpful to learn about the concept of alien lovebite. On the other hand, there is a danger in that concept of accidentally giving your power to someone “higher entity” than yourself. I finally managed to free myself, but it took months of work. It also revealed my own psychological weakness, which had to be addressed using therapeutic methods. The weakness was a desire to escape reality through love addiction.
