Eh I wouldn’t. Making him more like us will take away from his innate gifts and ability to choose as an adult. It’s much harder when you’ve been brought up that the things that are a part of who you are, aren’t acceptable by anyone in the world.
It’s not even true and it’s really hard to overcome.
How about teaching the adults to work with it? Autistic kids that are withdrawn to the extreme often can use telepathy and other mind gifts that we overlook or don’t believe in.
In fact just changing your thoughts while you are around him can make a huge difference because there are high odds he can feel them, especially disappointment and the like and it probably is actually hurtful and difficult to understand.
Imop help him embrace who he is and learn to use it the good parts to his advantage and minimize the parts that make life harder- it makes life harder when you rebel, but the young mind only sees people being hurtful and not even bothering to care what’s going on or how it feels.
Understanding you shouldn’t do something when the adults are doing things that are just bad… eh.
Kinda hard to get the adult mind over it in my experience. I often have wondered why the hell I went to such great lengths to do the right things and help when was unappreciated, shit on and twisted, so you can imagine being a child whose just trying to figure out why they are different and no one gets it? It doesn’t even have to be true to feel that way for a minute or appear that way.
Help him to be aware of the things that trigger the bad feelings and reactions so he can learn to curb them and watch out for them and work with them.
Teach him techniques for dealing with anxiety and setting firm boundaries without loosing your shit and how to handle it when people push anyways.
And teach him how to energetically shield himself from bad energy and thoughts, thought loops etc.
Maybe ask him if he sees or hears things other people don’t. Just asking can prompt someone to feel better or more comfortable, even it’s hey, why do you do this? What can we do to help you not want to do this or what can we do to help you want to engage?
Autistic individuals are highly intelligent, if he’s surrounded by individuals that don’t get him and are below his intelligence level or if he feels stupid because he’s not like the rest, either will increase the desire to withdraw and or act out and misbehave.
They also tend to feel others emotions a bit more acutely, so extreme emotions seem to make them uncomfortable too.
So imop, has anyone tried to look at it from a different angle? If traditional methods aren’t working perhaps some of these ideas might? I’m sure there’s many others and they may be better suited since each individual has their own needs and experiences to overcome and live with.