First, I want to share a TedTalk by my favorite person in the entire world, Ashley Graham.
Self Love Tips
1. Practice Gratitude
I can’t overstate how powerful this is.
When you make the effort to recognize everything you have to be grateful for, you will find more and more things to be grateful for – including your own abilities and accomplishments.
And when you take stock of everything that is actually going RIGHT in your life, that negative voice in your head won’t be as loud. That’s why I encourage everyone to keep a gratitude journal.
At the end of the day, take the time to write down each thing, no matter how small it seems, that you were thankful for during your day. This makes good days even better and is also a beautiful way to remind yourself how good your life really is.
Also, be sure to pay your gratitude forward. When you feel grateful for the people in your life and the things they have done for you, let them know about it.
Tell them that you see and appreciate what they do for you and for others. This allows you to pass that positive energy on to them and boost their self-esteem as well.
2. Celebrate Your Successes
Schedule some time to write down up to 101 accomplishments you have achieved in your life.
They don’t have to be big achievements; here are a few simple examples:
- Graduating high school
- Getting your driver’s license
- Learning to play the guitar or the piano
- Getting into college
- Becoming a sergeant in the military
- Getting a new job or promotion, giving your first talk,
- Getting your realtor’s license,
- Getting married,
- Starting a family
- Running a 10K
- Traveling to a foreign country.
Work to create as long a list as possible, even if you have to resort to things like passed the first grade, passed the second grade, passed the third grade, survived Mrs. Zimmerman’s biology class, and so on.
The more you can see how much you have accomplished in your life, the more you will recognize what you are capable of achieving.
3. Try The Mirror Exercise
All you have to do is take a few minutes at the end of each day to look at yourself in the mirror and say – out loud – that you appreciate what you accomplished that day.
Be sure to mention everything you achieved, no matter how big or small.
Because it’s important to give yourself credit for the small things, too! You got up on time, you stuck to your diet, you took the dog for a walk after dinner.
If you feel good about it, you should acknowledge it to yourself. Then, once you have thanked yourself for everything you did that day, look yourself in the eye and say “I love you,” to yourself.
This might seem awkward at first, and you might feel a bit silly, but if you do it every night I guarantee it will change the way you feel about yourself.
One of my students has done this every night for more than 5 years, and I can tell you the difference in both her self-esteem and her personality is amazing.
4. Practice Positive Affirmations
Daily affirmations are the best way to replace those negative thoughts that don’t serve you with positive thoughts that build you up and give you the confidence you need to achieve your goals.
I recommend two different kinds of affirmations when working with your self-esteem.
The first are affirmations that affirm positive things about yourself.
These would include statements like:
- “I am competent, smart and able. “
- “I deserve to be happy and successful.”
- “I am growing and changing for the better.”
- “I love the person I am becoming.”
- “I am self-reliant, creative and persistent in whatever I do.”
- “I always do my best, and that is enough.”
- “I am self-reliant, creative and persistent in whatever I do.”
- “I am worthy of all the good things that happen in my life.”
Because a big part of self-esteem is feeling competent to achieve what you set out to do, you can also use affirmations as a tool to help you achieve the goals that you set for yourself.
These would include affirmations like: “I am so happy and grateful that I have lost thirty pounds and feel healthy and strong in my body.”
By anchoring your affirmation in an emotion such as happiness or gratitude, you motivate yourself to want to experience that emotion for real.
And by stating your goal as already achieved, you create a dynamic cognitive tension in your subconscious mind between what you are affirming and what is the current reality (for example currently being overweight).
That will actually stimulate your unconscious creative mind to resolve that tension by coming up with solutions for you, and thereby moving you closer to your goal.
5. Take Responsibility
My final tip to boost your self-esteem is to accept that you are 100% responsible for your life.
It’s easy to play the “blame game” and say it’s other people’s fault, or that you’re a victim of circumstance when life doesn’t go your way.
But the truth is, you’re the only one who has control over your life – which means you’re the only one who can change your life for the better.
Once you recognize this, you will find it so much easier to improve your performance, learn from your mistakes, and create a life you truly love.
And with every new action you take, and every goal you set for yourself and achieve, you will boost your confidence and self-esteem even more.
Source
Suggested Goddess to help you: Aphrodite
Aphrodite: self-acceptance to self-love
Aphrodite is the Greek goddess of love and beauty. She brings love and healing to those around her through grace and confidence. As roses bloom and apples ripen, so does self-acceptance grow to supreme self-love.
- Mantra : Magnetism
- Gemstones : Rose quartz, pink tourmaline, emerald (pink or green stones), and citrine to bring Aphrodite’s gifts in abundance!
- Essential Oils : Goddess-ence Ishtar* blend for the sacral chakra
Affirmations
- I am valuable
- I “turn heads” as I walk in beauty
- I am free to be myself, I accept myself as I am
- I’m the best thing that’s ever happened to me
- The love I radiate is returned in equal measure
Her Story
Aphrodite is also known to the Romans as Venus. She is the goddess of doves, swans, roses, apples, arts and all things graceful, inspired and creative. According to myth, she emerged as a nymph from the waves and immediately drove almost every male god wild with desire.
Aphrodite was very much a free goddess. She revelled in indulging her appetites, which by all accounts, were as impressive as her looks.
Her Modern Energy
While it may be easy to take this too literally and judge her as amoral, her free and easy lifestyle is more appropriately interpreted as a symbol of the way in which the passion and fulfilment of artistic creativity is eternally available to everyone.
Are you having a trauma at the moment? You don’t consider yourself beautiful? You’re conscious of certain ‘imperfections’ in your appearance? Think again.
If Aphrodite is reaching you today, it may be that you are wishing to recapture the feeling of being ‘red hot’ and highly wanted. You’re looking for the energy and confidence to flirt and with Aphrodite’s inspiration and grace with you, you’re guaranteed to remain in control of the consequences.
Regardless of your shape or size, Aphrodite is here to help you exude a magnetic charisma which, if you allow it to express itself fully, will make you feel attractive and desirable.
Reconnect With Your Inner Aphrodite
Take 7 small pink candles, a related essence oil and a scarf. Each morning as your body is still steaming from the shower, sit in front of a mirror, and light one candle. Anoint the candle with the oil from top to bottom, and then yourself – a drop over your heart chakra, each of your wrists, and on the balls of your feet. Breathe in the scent all allow yourself to meditate for a few moments. Repeat your affirmation, or a dedication to Aphrodite:
Aphrodite goddess of love,
Bless me with your grace.
Love grows, Love flows
Love flows, Love grows
Allow the candle to burn out as you get ready for the day. Place the remaining candles and oil in the scarf until the next day, repeating the process each morning. Always remember the aura you exude is the aura you will attract: be a magnet for love by exuding self-love! You are the goddess of beauty and love.
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Aphrodite’s Sigil
