I know you would think black magicians of all people would be a little more free love.
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I have some issues about trying to get an ex back because people never works on what make them broke up in first place.
Also, love spells are very tricky and I already saw a lot of people getting huge collaterals because they did something wrong.
Well, trying to have an ex back is always an option, a lot of people start to work with magic because of this, but it’s a lot better to work on self improvement, on self growth. If people just stop to put all their energy on trying to get an ex back and spend their energy on their evolution…
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I feel that the people saying how pathetic it is to want your ex back have either never gone through it, or somehow think that every breakup is the same… It’s not always about being incompatible, every situation is different and it fucking hurts when it’s something you had no control over
That being said, I do agree that seeing essentially the same thing posted again and again is getting a bit old… People seem to think that a solution is just going be handed to them with no research or effort on their part - search button is there for a reason!
Gotta say, though @AdamThoth- a clickbaity title like that won’t accomplish much if you just insult people that open it in hopes of finding an answer. It’s easy to tell people just to move on… Not so easy to actually do it. Maybe it would be better to let new people know that there are already hundreds of posts on this topic? Maybe link to something help them? People don’t like bring spoken down to, it creates a bit of a hostile environment for the site, don’t you think? No reason to drive new people away just because you don’t agree with what brought them here
Actually, now that I think about it… Hey @Lady_Eva, what do you think about a stickied thread at the start of the #love-sex-magick-relationships page telling people wanting an ex back to look through what’s already here instead of making new threads? It would cut down on spam and it might get some older topics flowing again
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Ah, looks good, won’t work, as a wise man once said - people never read stickies, or we wouldn’t be chasing people to do an intro, also, forums that insist new members restrain their enthusiasm tend to start getting stagnant.
If you spot too many going on at once, drop a flag, and I can merge them, but people join wanting to be heard for themselves and not shoehorned into some old topic, or merged into someone else’s situation.
Always remember the same old question you saw 3 times this week is brand new and possibly (for heartbreak) the most important thing in the world right now to that person, who’s maybe taking a leap of faith anyway joining a forum like this. 
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Something like - “ATTENTION! Want an ex back? Look here first!”
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Years ago, we had this pinned in that category: Share Your "Get My Ex Back" Spells That Actually Worked
1st post says, please no questions, just post successes. It’s very clear on that.
I spent more time splitting questions off it, from people who didn’t even READ the OP, let alone the whole topic… 32 in total. In the end it was driving me so crazy that I just gave up and closed it, I’ll add links to things or people can send me them, but no-one read it. 
So, if people won’t even READ the OP of a “these are things that actually WORKED” topic, I am pretty sure they won’t read a “Read this first” topic either, sticky-thread blindness is a real thing, hell I don’t read all the stickies on any forum I join. 
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Some things in society are frowned upon mental laziness especially I’m the magick community. Endless posts about how to get an ex back when a simple search would yeald countless results is ridiculous and clogging up the forum. I’m not trying to be a dick it just comes naturally but sometimes it’s necessary.
Wait… I’m a LHP occultist and Devil Worshiper of course I’m a dick.
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Don’t judge, especially if you don’t know another’s circumstances.
And if a lost love brings one to magic, so be it.
Everyone, you included, has a reason for starting on this path.
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Ok, OK, fair enough for your perspective I respect that but honestly they don’t need to be clogging up the forum with this annoying posts two three sometimes 4 times a week. Especially when a simple search will give them years worth of advice in threads about this very topic.
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Who are we to judge? “Desperate times call for desperate measures” and have you ever considered, they’re reaching out for help? Can we be so heartlesss and refuse, just because, thank goodness, we’re not in that situation?
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Yeah, I’m all about compassion of course I believe in Lucifer but to be honest its really only about having some forum etiquette and not placing ones relationship insecurities in the way of other people’s ascent. It’s about having common courtesy for the forum. If somebody posts a thread asking about evocation everybody posts replies of links to previous threads explaining everything in detail. Why the same search function isn’t implemented is due to mental laziness and nobody respects that, until it seems to be about getting back an ex then for some odd reason it’s tolerated.
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Its not so much about the content as it is the intent which is " hey all you people who have years of training and focus please solve my relationship problem for me so I don’t need to man up and accept my situation". Such victim lazy mentality can’t be tolerated. They have freedom of speach but so do I and my criticism sometimes is warranted. I wouldn’t do it if it wasn’t.
Usually I don’t even take a look in posts with that headline anymore. Glad, I did it this time 
I wholeheartedly agree.
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Thank you my dear, we are not alone. This mental laziness is only accepted when it’s about getting an ex back every other time its “hey, use the search function” Lol
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At some point I agree with @Eibwen_glab because we can’t define circunstances for other people. Also, I think everyone have the right to try magick by itself and, again, a lot of people starts with love spells.
But I’ve been there, with “sucess”. Not once. But I’ve experimented some collateral effects, like a huge obsession or a fucking depression comming from the target. But when I start to work on my self improvement every little aspect in my life becomes better, and even my ex girlfriend come to me to talk after 5 months but I didn’t wanted to come back. That’s all because I talk better, have a better job, developed new projects and this goes on.
So the only thing I can tell for people who are trying to get their ex’s back is to work a lot on yourself first. Work on self improvement and it’s more likely to have your ex back because you’ll become interesting again. Work on your social life, so you’ll gather social proof and will become more and more interesting. Keep working on yourself and your ex will think about you again.
Believe in me, this is better than forcing lust on people. Much better.
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Look at it this way. They might not necessarily be asking someone to do the spell for them; they might just be seeking guidance from someone more knowledgeable than themselves?
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Fair enough but why is it so hard to use an already existing thread on the topic? I mean for every other topic this is what we direct people to do. Why is it only different and accepted when someone wants an ex back?
But wait… I digress, if getting an ex back brings people to ascent and overall promotes evolution I suppose it can be tolerated for the benefits to humanity that it could provide. If someone comes here to get an ex back but instead becomes a living god then so be it and I take it back. Let them post as they will.
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Ok, OK, OK, tolerated but only once! 
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Newbie here but I do want to offer another perspective on this. Maybe instead of asking to get back with the ex, sit deeply with your emotions so you can understand what it is that you really want that you got out of that bad relationship.
Examples:
1- maybe you were abused and feel like you lost your dignity and self worth in the relationship. Then instead of asking to be in a full relationship again, ask for them to apologize to you and admit their wrongs. Then after that happens see if you still want them.
2- maybe it was just the sex. Then you can ask to get them back for just sex but you also get to see other people.
3- maybe you just liked one aspect of them but hated everything else for example you loved that they are intelligent and ambitious. Ask to date someone else who is equally or more intelligent and ambitious and see if you still want them after that.
In short it’s very rare that you find other interesting and amazing people and yet still want to get back with the ex. Often times it’s just an ego thing. Well in that case just ask for ways that your ego would be appeased for example ask for another more beautiful partner and ask that you get to parade that partner in front of them and see their priceless facial expression.
That would be a million times more productive than going back into a full blown relationship.
All that being said, there are cases where you meet tons of other very interesting, beautiful, and amazing people and yet that one person still lingers in your mind somehow. In those cases I think it may be justified BUT only after you’ve exhausted all the other options.
Just my $0.02 as a newbie
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