its a big topic i actually not sure where to start, but i will give u some points that might help:
First we need to correct something: not all jinn are shapeshifters, technically. What do I mean? even though they all come and appear in certain forms or shapes the they take form of, they all stick to the forms they take but the ghouls and janns that keep usually keep shape-shifting.
I will quickly summarize the types of djinn: Hinn, Jann, Marid, Ghoul, Marid, Ifrit, Shiqq, Nasnas, Palis, Silat, Shaitaan.
Usually people would work with the shaitaeen, Ifirits or they Marids. However, Marids are really hard to handle.
Why did I need to say all that? Well, in terms of respect, you need to understand this Jinniyah belongs to which category to know how to deal with her. Even though, I believe she is Jann because of her appearance. They are fast in terms of getting results. They are also hard to control without proper calling. As to binding them with their own oaths or their master name, the lesser king their under.
Jinn are usually attracted to those of high energetic frequency which most of the time religious people posses such frequencies and why some (in the Arabian cultures) believe you need to worship god to be gifted one. Which is not true. but because they require high energies to feed on.
Thats why its hard to handle them, because they are disrupting and need to do banishing after your ritual. Those who have dealt with female jinni reported that when the jinni fell in love with them, they would cause disruption in their life and push people away. I am not saying this to scare you but it seems like your not working with the king that that jinni falls under.
If your communication abilities are set, then try to know these first.
What type of jinni is she? who is her king? what is her element? (this you can verify through a mathmatical spiritual calculation in the arabian tradition to know the element of a spirit or human and their personality. and from there you can start to know how to summon her and how to deal with her. Also, if any disobedience occurs you know how to dismiss or force. Note jinn are the same as humans have personality of their own.
I hope that helped. Be blessed