I think it’s a matter of how you react emotionally to the pornography. Do you feel ashamed, fearful, or otherwise drained? Then it’s bad. It’s all about how we feel.
This made me real fucked up.
Loneliness and depression isn’t exclusive to porn consumers. It’s a common mental health crisis that has more to do with our explosive accessibility to relatively anything and anybody. Still, we’re also not going to pretend like taking away cell phones and laptops is a helpful solution to society’s problems. That, in itself, is a beast to conquer. People who experience sexual difficulties should abstain from porn and sex work.
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the company of a porn star. It’s a temporary visit for a specific sexual experience. It’s not meant to last forever, and it’s totally possible for people to enjoy their fantasies and then go about the rest of your day. If you’re spending your entire day watching porn and have trouble disciplining yourself, that’ll likely interfere with your life to which you should stop. Not everyone functions this way, and it’s important to remember that while we’re likewise discussing the negative consequences.
Those who are benefitted by it must also be protected and hopefully respected in society because it’s a shame that those in the sex work industry who are murdered, stalked, etc. are blamed for the mental health and actions of their abusers when the creator’s sex act itself is neither a crime nor a social blemish.
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It’s also a matter of how we feel when we don’t get our usual daily dose of it.
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If someone is addicted then they should try nofap
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As watching porn and jerking off is for pervs and they become slaves for mistress.
Also make sure to quit porn otherwise your wife wont be happy and divorce you right away
I dont think anyone would like to consume pills and have sex with their wives.
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Yeah, and?
You can’t get divorced if you didn’t get married in the first place.
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PS one issue re: stigma.
At the moment a lot of developed nations who offer unemployment benefits require claimants to be actively seeking work, and (sometimes after a short selective period) to apply for, and accept, all jobs their basic abilities permit.
This includes people with some disabilites, including learning difficulties, and including those which give that person the cognitive abilities and emotional response of a much younger person.
And not liking the job, or preferring to do something else for reasons of preserving self-image are seldom accepted as a reason to refuse an offer of work.
In the UK, benefits are stopped if someone refuses an offer of a job they could have done, so if you were a CEO and you don’t accept a job offer pushing shopping trolleys because you think it’s somehow beneath you, you won’t get any money, including rent payments.
So if sex work was totally destigmatised and seen as on a level with every other way to make money, would it be reasonable to expect a job seeker, let’s say a 19 year old person of either sex who has no other means of income, to apply first for work as a prostitute, since there are no real barriers to entry in that field?
Most women, for example, could be out turning tricks within an hour if they’re given the address of districts or bars where prostitutes are known to work.
If sex work is a job like any other, does the social contract of providing welfare for the jobless expand to expect them to enter prostitution, and only claim benefits if they are proven unable to sell sexual services to anyone?
So far no government I am aware of has defined the barrier for receiving benefits in this way. That is because there is a stigma around sex work, and it’s considered to be significantly different to any other form of work, even if those other jobs are not what the person would prefer.
And as we enter what’s probably going to be a hellacious recession, the problem of being able to work, but unable to find a job, may become even more pronounced.
If stigma is totally removed, and selling sex seen as just another way to make a wage, with the body described as a workplace like any other, then should welfare services begin doing this?
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Well start fucking whores then
Wives wont complain about the size of dick or watch porno
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I like to think I help my clients because they come to me one on one with a specific problem and altho we don’t see eachother beyond a screen I possess the certain tools and or product they need to fulfill a desire. Some of them have had bad days some have just gone through break ups sure sure but most just want a unique experience with another human being without the added stress of meeting some one in real life (nothing wrong with that)
I’d like to ad I have a boyfriend and altho sex can help to a successful relationship it doesn’t define it. And we’ve enjoyed a long healthy open relationship wand still enjoy eachother and continually learn more about each other because sex is not our relationship, our relationship is our relationship 
ith many sex partners (some often reoccurring)
A very good point.
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Lady_Eva always gives good points.
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Not everything in this world can be subjective and twisted , the bottom line is , it doesn’t guide peolle to their best realities or even a good one .
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This is a very great point. Although I hate the stigma that wrongly paints a light on me as a person, the stigma itself DOES keep things like this from happening.
I’d find similarities between this example and none employed being forced into the military for example. What if someone is a consciencous objector or not aligned with serving based on spiritual beliefs. Hopefully ( as much I luv sex work) it does not become considered a viable option to be forced into due to unemployment no matter how much the stigma is unveiled
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Why do you think it would be wrong for that scenario to happen, though?
I’m asking for your own point of view on this, because you have a different perspective, and lived experience, to me. 
Without stigma, sex work is just work. And jobseekers aren’t allowed to only apply for the jobs they think they’d enjoy.
Would you be willing to accept some stigma remaining, if it helps prevent situations like this?
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I think it would be wrong because as a society we like to make everyone on an even plane or playing field as workers and this is simply not the case, spiritual beliefs, personal guilt or morals or sexual or mental disorders would make this scenario a living horror for many people, and although it works for me it doesn’t for everyone just like, being a police officer, or working in an animal slaughter house, or many other jobs.
We are all unique expressions of the universe and therefore not everyone is compatible or able to spiritually align while working in certain fields. 
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And there goes my brain Poof! for today, while eating corn flakes when I should be packing!
Good question!
So, @SacredMoth, would you consider yourself a healer?
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Yes I would but with that comes great responsibility not alot of people in my position realize and are mature enough to handle.
Just as ea koetting said medicines can be poisons and poisons can be medicines in all aspects it needs to be handled with care
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Then again, what is the duality and the responsibility of “sacred prostitution”?
Because I have read and watched documentaries about sexual energy being healing.
However, what is being written here makes my brain go 
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Not in a bad way; however, for someone who was so sheltered with horrible sexual experiences (my story is my story), I find a gravitational pull towards this.
So, I guess my next question would be: Is masterbation bad then if used as part of sexual healing?
Huh! This is exactly what I needed today.
Not the masterbation. My brain being engaged by the insights of others.
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Porn in itself has been very healing to myself as well, I just like seeing everthing as not good and evil but vibrations and wether it raises vibes or lowers them
After being beaten within inches of my life for being gay in the United States Marine Corps porn has allowed me to accept who I am and receive very positive and constructive love and cherishment that was necessary for me to heal after such a life changing occurance
Selling sex isn’t only about making a wage though it’s an important factor. It’s also a way to explore your sexual interests and pleasure. Why is there a continued deflection from acknowledging the fun / healing that a paying client can and often does receive? When it comes to the recipient, clearly they aren’t receiving any financial compensation. There’s been a consistent deflection of placing blame on creators rather and not remembering the benefits that recipients often receive from the experience. It is work when utilized as a career and charged. Many forms of labor include physical work that would, in essence, “turn the body into a workplace” with this argument. When you’re a porn star, your body isn’t the workplace. The workplace is the platform you use, or the financial agreement / contract made between client and business.
Not all my sexual activity is paid. Not all my sexual activity has the same level of intimacy.
Love in general adds a factor to sex that simply cannot be reproduced or priced. I’m not barred from experiencing real love.
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