That comes down to the difference between theophany - contact with spirits, up to and including “the” God. Source, etc - and magick, which is defined as “the Science and Art of causing Change to occur in conformity with Will.”
Creating a chaos sigil involves no spirits, no big revelations etc., and may make that person’s life much better. THAT is magick.
Marrying a demonic King and being told you are his sole ascended shakti, that he will do anything to have you etc., is NOT magick; nether is realising you, and you alone, are Lucifer’s chosen Son carrying his heritage to manifest on earth.
These are both theophanies, and very often the people having them, and going big on that early in their magickal career, find themselves unable to improve their material circumstances even slightly, nor have any influence on anyone else, because they don’t bother trying to move past the fancy titles.
Sometimes they can be actively harmful if they hold the person back from making other improvements in their lives; sometimes they can be a mixture, where they help the person in some ways and seem to hold them back in others; occasionally they can be the gateway to both profound personal empowerment, and material success (I write this btw as someone married to a spirit myself for years).
The majority of us exist in a middle ground where doing magick leads to theophanies, many of which are extremely similar, as I posted before and will repeat here:
I’ve written about this on here before - ANYONE who does spirit work, be it healing, love & light, or the kinds of work we do here, will at some point be told something like this - that they’re the child, or other kin, of a spirit, the incarnation of a major god or demon themselves, and/or that they have some massive role to play in global consciousnes, and so on.
Many, MANY people get fucked over, thinking this is JUST happening to them, and completely lose the plot.
But here’s the thing: you are GOD. Big G - Creator of all, the one and only source of all forms in the universe, so, yes of course you’re also Shiva’s son, Hathor’s father, the God King of Mars, the future Christ-Child, the Nephilim battle chief, you name it - it’s YOU.
IN you.
Emanating FROM, you.
But not ordinary you - not the you that farts, flosses, and follows a sport or TV show, the You that is also emanating all these currents and channels is the cosmic Source of you, Source of all things, so when it resonates on one of these harmonics and a spirit starts telling you that you’re the next big deal, bear in mind that it’s resonating energy and discussion of potential, and that you are no more (nor less) special than anyone else out there, but - and this is IMPORTANT - that you do, like everyone, have the POTENTIAL to live into the thing you have been told.
So yeah, you are Abaddon’s son, for sure, and no with respect Sic_Draco this isn’t a psy-op - this is what happens when you start doing magick.
The “child of” (or wife, father, incarnation, or ruler of) means that you’re in harmony with the energy of that thing, so you’re the child, guardian, progenitor of that energy - and nothing more (nor, less). You are the child right now of the Abaddon consciousness emenating from (or held within the mind of) the Source, which is also, the consciousnes back of, and behind, everything that is you.
This is how Egyptian kings, like many others (who were also priests or shamans to begin with) got the whole mantle of being living gods to their people - someone told them this, and they formalised it. And if they were good protectors of their people, they even lived into that mantle, and earned the right to its recognition by doing the work that was required of them, and expected by their people.
This is why the PGM formulae all discuss being one with, or as the child of, a god, and again, when the magician steps up to do the work, he or she IS literally acting as a god, has taken that potential and is living it, manifesting it, in that moment of shaping reality to comply with will.
It’s no big deal, to be told these things, but it’s also a fucking huge big deal, because it’s TRUE for each and every one of us.
Coming back to your question @Bunnygamer1994 “how do you get the proof needed to show who is ligit or not,” I would suggest there is an increasing need for new magicians to see beyond self-appointed titles like spouse/child/incarnation of a spirit, and look to the magickal goals they have, and how far that person can aid them, from their own skillset.
Magick is about getting shit done; everything else is just the background, or ways and means.