Hi all (warning, long post, I’m really sorry),
I’ve been casting love spells/curses (however you prefer to call them) with the goal of getting my love to return to me. As the title of this topic says, I’m confused. I’m not sure if I have seen results from my love workings. As far as I can tell, in the physical world, I do not seem to be successful in my efforts.
Quick backstory: A year ago we met, were together for a wonderful two months before he ended things. He wasn’t ready for something serious (I was) because he wasn’t over his ex. The next several months we were friends (at least I tried to be) before I ended that because I realized I wasn’t over him, in fact was still in love with him. That’s around the same time I tried to apply the law of attraction to try and get him back. Then slowly I learned about other types of stuff. Over the past five months I’ve done the following:
- Law of Attraction
- Honey Jar
- Obsession Jar
- Domination Jar (with my urine and his photo taped to the bottom of the jar)
- Simple Candle Spells multiple times, I’ve done the visualization taught by E.A. Koetting, I’ve also carved his full name on the candles and dressed the candles in my menstrual blood
- Petition spells
- Various Communication spells, one was basically a petition spell where I kept it by my phone for a few days (did this multiple times) and then burned it, another was a ritual calling upon the element of air to encourage him to contact him
- Voodoo doll made of red fabric, filled with ripped cotton balls, lavender and roses (for love), cinnamon (for lust), a photo of him with full name and DOB written in the back and petition (for him to be in love with me and give us another chance)
- Petition deities (Freyja, Aphrodite, Lucifer, Amon, Sallos, Santa Muerte)
- Petition his higher self
Since beginning these love workings this is what I have experienced:
My love is friendly like always to me, asks me how I am and is generally nice, however, has entered a committed relationship with another woman. Currently, they are still together (been together for three months now). I’ve so far interpreted this as a sign that my love workings are not working as I hoped. Also, none of my communication spells have resulted in him contacting me.
So far, my love workings do not seem to have affected anything (at least not in the physical world) that I can see. As for the deities, I evoked them according to advice given here in the form, gave an offering, kindly told them my situation and humbly asked for their help. Then I invited the deities to come to me in my dreams and give me a sign/tell me whether they agree to help or not. I have been having vivid dreams ever since I began doing love workings, however, I have only seen either my love (sometimes he and I are together, other times he is with other women or just far away) or my family, friends and acquaintances. Only once, after praying to Santa Muerte (two days after asking for her help, two weeks after asking Amon and Sallos and a week after I re-followed him on Instagram) on the morning of New Years Eve, did my love send me a message. He wished me a happy new year and hoped I had had a great Christmas. I tried my best to utilize the opportunity and initiate a conversation without seeming overeager, however, he wasn’t interested in conversing. The next several weeks after that nothing happens between us. I try to run into him, have a friendly chat without being ‘weird’ or whatever, yet he remains just friendly in a friend way.
So, therefore, I’ve created this topic on here to ask for some help. Have I seen results from my love workings? At least from what I describe, or are they just mundane reactions to me mundane efforts? I thought it was normal to see some signs in the ‘physical world’ of the workings to be working within 30-60 days. I’ve done my best to be nice and friendly towards him (while respecting his relationship with his girlfriend) in the mundane without being fake (refuse to try to be his friend knowing how I feel and also because he has a girlfriend, it wouldn’t be nice). I’ve done meditations in order to keep my lusting for results in check, so I don’t think that is blocking anything.
I’ve done my best to read through the forum, and I think I’ve done everything right. At least, I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong in my workings. I’ve followed them to the letter, keeping in mind my intuition and personalizing it a bit where applicable (like with the doll, jars and candles).
Any and all advice, perspectives and/or takes would be appreciated. I’ve done readings for myself, and recently had a reading done by someone else. It was positive, telling my that the person I think of the most will return, they will come to me. So, I’m just so confused.
Again, I apologize for the very, very long post.