Complicated Situation, Need advice on layering

Love, Sex Magick & Relationships
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Greetings to All!

I have recently discovered the Occult after undergoing a traumatic situation. I seek help on this forum for guidance in my next actions. I will state the background and rituals I have done in the past few weeks/days. I am sorry if this topic has been repeated, but I believe my situation is a bit different. If any, I apologize in advance for any rule-breaking.

Background:
To Begin, I am a 33 year old male, and my girlfriend is 30. Lets call her H. We have been together for 4 years. While having a relationship with her, I was also having a relationship with someone overseas, in which we were 7 years. Lets call her A.
So I was having 2 in one time.

In the first few years with H, everything was going great, until we had fights and mini-breakups. During these times, I was giving more attention and focus to A. Then somehow I will always have the will to reconcile with H, and were back again.

2 months ago, H went on a trip with her Mom. So I was alone, a girl added me on IG and she was nice. I invited her for coffee the next day. Long story short after the coffee I invited her to my place and I cheated.

Few days pass after this, the girl I cheated with found H’s instagram, and proceeded to report me. H confronted me and initially I was lying, but the girl had proof (Pics of my bed, tattoos on my body) so I can’t deny. H broke up with me and I started to chase her HARD. Apologizing and etc. H and I had communications open for 1 month, until she decided to block me after a mini fight. So I wrote letters and etc.

During this time, I’ve discovered the Occult. My first book was Lucifer and the Hidden Demons. I studied the book and did Pathworking there. I will list the Rituals and Pathworkings:

Pathworkings:
Before Being Blocked:
Lucifer - I asked Lucifer to reconcile us, after 2 days, I sent her a message of my realizations, regrets and wishing her the best.
Asmodi - I asked Asmodi to tempt her to communicate with me, it worked.
Maranaton - I asked Maranaton to renew the love hidden under hatred.

After Being Blocked:
Diralisin - I asked Diralisin to open communication between us.
Suddenly I had the urge to call my Father and have him fly overseas to come here and talk to H. To show my genuine sincerity. My Father supports me and wants me to get married to her.
During this time I have asked Parelit to make H decide to accept me again. But I think it didn’t work as she didn’t give any answer of yes to my Dad when they met.

Few days passed, I used Enn Chanting of Duke Sallos and closed my eyes. After a while I saw a Gray castle, with cloudy skies and a Knight in Grey Armour with a maroon cape. Sallos said: Speak, and I spoke my desire, in which I wanted reconcilation with H. After a few days of this, I was inspired to again write a letter, this time written, containing a message of my regrets, remorse, and a goodbye for now written letter and left it at her doorstep. In the letter I also included the apartment cards so I cannot access her place anymore.

A few days after this, I stumbled upon a mage online which deals with Demonolatry, and offers rituals for love spells. I requested her services and she did a ritual for me while also instructing me to do a ritual, which consists of:

Red Candle
Red String
Photo of H
Blood

She told me that we will be working with Lilith, so a day after and the day of the ritual I have enn chanted to Lilith. I saw her as a woman with Horns atop a night sky with stars. I gave her my reasons, and she asked me “is that all?” in which I gave the 4th reason. She said “You are an honest man, I shall reward your honesty” I gave thanks and said I will leave now, and she said “Very well”

Now I have engraved the name of H on the candle, charged it with my will and intent, and added my blood onto it, whilst reciting a prayer. Then I lighted it. My intuition told me to let the candle burn all throughout, so I did for 7 hours on the 3rd day. The flame was tall and steady, and the wax left was heart shaped.

Next day, I again Pathworked to Sallos using Corwin Hargrove’s Goetia Pathworking. I asked him to open communication between us.

2 days after that which is Today, I have sudden realizations after I finished my work.

Realizations:
Honor Commitments. When you enter a relationship do not cheat, treasure the one you have.
Do not take people for granted especially your romantic partner.
Intense feelings of regret and wishing I treated H more right and never cheated.
Should have broken up sooner with A and just continued with H.

Goals:
To get H back, to progress to marriage, and to be a man of Honor.
To get H to open again communication with me.

I will honor my commitments and live with integrity as much as I can. I just wish H comes back and gives me a second chance. I am her first boyfriend and we started when she was 26 years old. She comes from a very traditional family. When I stalked H’s social media, shes always out partying, playing sports, surrounded with friends, and having fun. While I am a desolate mess, lonely, depressed, anxious. Her friends and family do not like me anymore of course, so I can’t turn into that, I do am having thoughts of asking the Demons to change what they think of me.

Questions:
What else can I do with my situation? (I am not lusting for results that much, mainly today I feel neutral)
I drew an online one card tarot for Divination, before opening the Tarot I asked what will happen between me and H? I got the upright 6 of wands.

Thank you for your time reading and helping.

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Your working overall looks relatively solid.

I would also recommend working with Dantalion to influence the minds of others (and also your own) and Agares to aid in reconciliation. Besides that, you need to look at it from another perspective which is that you hurt her, so performing healing work on her and also showing that you’re genuine and want to help her heal would be a good start.

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Hi Toxin,

Good suggestions. Do I need to break her will in order for the love spell to go in her heart and mind?

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You may have to give this time.

You’ve got a lot going on here and it needs to marinate. Love magick can take a couple of days or it can take some months, it works on its own timeline, not ours.

Have you done anything to remove her anger? You cheated on her and that scorns many deeply, the magick to get around this pain and bring her back should be very precise and tackle exact roadblocks that stand between you two. Heal her anger, heal her pain first. She can’t love you if she hates you. If you haven’t worked on this aspect, you need to start on it immediately.

And in regards to the last part of your post, you can break her will properly, but the person you will have afterward will differ from the H you know and love.

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I would suggest not try to break her will, and in my personal workings on others I avoid this, if you’re trying to make someone do something against their personality it would bring up a lot of mental baggage and cognitive dissonance for them if not done just right.

I’d personally try to create your requests in a way that aligns with her existing beliefs, mindset, etc. Subtly lead her to where you want her, and most importantly perform workings as much as possible to ensure she’s calm, happy and grateful through all of this - “this” being what you’re trying to make her do, and obviously the main goal of her being back with you.

There’s also much more subtle things you should do such as making it so whenever she comes into contact with you online or perceives you in some way she feels happy and ready to forgive.

Another thing you can do is design your workings not to break her will but to subtly alter it, slowly but surely towards your goals.

The working taken from this approach will likely have a much more longer lasting effect, and allow your goals to go to the deepest level possible within her without you needing to encounter much resistance. I would always recommend basing workings like this on your targets psychology and personality so adapting it as you see fit is a good idea.

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Shadow,

Any suggestion on how should I break her anger? If I Pathwork to Agares and request to bring her back, can I also ask Dantalion to heal her anger as well as her family and friends?

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Toxin,

Very nice point of view. I’ll take that into consideration. There is a book by Theodore Rose, called The Art of Magickal Enchantment, and one of the powers listed there granted by the Salamanders is to Remove a Painful memory. I was thinking of working with this power to remove her hatred. What do you think?

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That could work and would be a good idea. I always like to “place” something new when I’m removing something (a belief, thought, etc). So I’d also call onto Dantalion, or a different being if you feel drawn, and work on placing thoughts relating to her wanting to give you a second chance, being ready to forgive, etc.

It might be a slow process but I believe you’ll find it works well for your situation.

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I have Corwin Hargrove’s Goetia Pathwoking, so I will probably use that. I feel drawn to Dantalion lately, so I will connect with him. Is it okay to request 2 things in one invocation? For example, I would ask Dantalion to heal the hatred she has towards me and give her thoughts on giving me a second chance? And on the next day I will ask Agares to bring her back to me.

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@Mulberry @DarkestKnight Hi, Need your advises also :smiley: :smiley: Thanks for your patience and understanding.

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In my opinion, it’s all way too much. You are being completely overbearing and clingy, which is the opposite of attractive, and this drives people away. You need to give her time to miss you and remember the good times, and calm down from you cheating on her and then lying to her about it.

THIS ^

Enough said.

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1 month update:

2nd week of October we were texting, she still hates me and her last message to me was “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t cheat, and that’s the answer for everything” after this she never replied anymore.

Prior to that week, I have worked with Dantalion, Vuall, Orias. I have asked them to change her thoughts as well as her friends and family, and to regain the trust back.

A friend of mine catched up with me and we talked about H, he said that 3rd week October she posted something online with: “Things that are a mess are not meant to be together”, she is a strong believer in the universe, so she thinks that us breaking up due to my cheating is the universe’s way of protecting her.

Right now, I feel 50/50. I feel like nothing’s working but at the same time I feel like something’s working.

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