Birthday blues

[Lady_Eva]

First up, Happy Birthday! This is a special day, no matter how you feel right now.

Second:

@Tiger

from a very early age I was taught I’d never achieve them

Okay make today the day you leave that behind - you’re three times nine years, a very sacred set of numbers.

Are you game-on for taking control now? Are you ready yet?

Try this, first, today:

I give myself permission to leave the past behind, and choose my own horizons.

Repeat that (or something with the same meaning, that’s worded more to your own liking) at least 27 times, one to cancel each year you’ve lived under that shadow.

Then have a look through this:

Why Rituals Work For Marking Change

I’m a bit of a fan of doing ritualised things to mark changes, chapters closing and opening in life, stuff like that - now it looks like this has serious scientific support: Ritual turns change, which can be scary and difficult, into a turning point with an element of celebrating and acknowledging the “old you” whilst welcoming in the NEW - useful if what you’re leaving behind took up a lot of your energy, and walking away from it feels like a mixed blessing, given how much of your life it ma…

Try finding a symbol of the person you want to be, could be a photo of a place you’d love to visit, could be an object, anything, find a picture or two of that (don’t waste ages looking) and keep it as your phone lockscreen or something.

Make that symbol your gift to yourself today, a legitimate gift that’s a promise to your own future.

Next up:

@Tiger

Realistically, if I could wake up tomorrow with extreme determination, commitment and motivation, thats a dream come true

Ask yourself this magickal question:

What would it take?

What would it take in your life for you to do this? To feel this way? What blocks dedication daily, and whittles away at your good intentions? What would it take to not face those blocks?

Get really focused, think of this like, if you’d DIE if you don’t reach a realistic-but-challenging goal by February - what would it take to reach that goal?

If you were advising a friend you believed in, and you knew he could do it, how would you troubleshoot that for him?

And, “motivation”:

You cannot have things that are hard won, if you only want to feel easy (safe, delaying, self-comforting, etc) all the time.

To have hard things, things most people can only dream of, you have to be hard on yourself in some ways, and yes that sucks, but this is why most people are lazy, unsuccessful fucks.

CHOOSE not to be among their number, they don’t need any more manpower!

Motivation is great but sometimes you have to push through what the whiny toddler inside wants, forever seeking new and shiny things, and just commit.

Finally, try reading this:

• Time Management, Procrastination, And ADHD

I hope some of this helps, and I hope we have your back on this - and if you think my post sucks, fair enough, I wish you well and hope someone else hits the spot!

Just remember to take SOME positive and novel action today, something outside your comfort zone, that starts you on the path towards your goals, and then also, make sure to reward that - your birthday is very important, and some kind of treat that you’ve earned, and the memory that this is the day you committed, this is the day you chose to believe in your future, not stay enslaved to the past, will be a precious thing that will stay with you forever!