Advice on working with hoodoo oils (Bend to me, DUME, etc)

Vodoun, Santeria, Palo Mayombe & African Magick
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My family in practice brujeria but see more experienced users for help rather than perform their own spells. I don’t really talk to them much about my practice as they are heavily catholic and I’m not.

I recently have come upon a situation that I’d like to resolve and have been reading about hoodoo oils and would like to incorporate them into my practice to resolve my situation.

My husband has an extremely unhealthy attachment to his dog and it has caused strain in our marriage. I want the dog to go live with his family (they work from home and have multiple other dogs on 12 acres) while we both work 9-5 jobs and commute an hour each way. The dog would genuinely be happier and well cared for there.

I want to do an unbinding spell to break his attachment to the dog and then I want to do a honey jar spell to increase his love for me.

I purchased premade DUME oil from Etsy and was planning on making my own Bend to Me oil. I practice demonolatry and wanted to ask King Paimon to bless my ingredients as I make the oil and infuse his energy into it. I have previously had good success with him and know he is good at influencing people. I’m looking for advice on crafting an unbinding spell using DUME oil and was also hoping to incorporate Bend to Me oil in either the honey jar spell or unbinding spell.

Any advice?

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Have you tried to talk to the dog? There are pet communication spells.

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Yes, it then shit on the floor a few days later and mashed my leggings into the shit. I also had an intuitive friend ask the dog to behave. That was about a year ago

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But did you actually try to find out the issue? Just giving the dog orders to behave won’t solve things if there is an underlying reason for the problems.

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It liked the life it had before my husband met me is what my intuitive friend said.

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So what you’re saying is that you’re jealous of the dog and the dog is in turn picking up on that and reflecting it back to you. How much of this “power struggle” that you describe is your doing and how much is actually on the dog? Pets generally respond to us the same way we respond to them and it sounds like this is pretty much mostly on you. You even said it yourself, you want all your husband’s attention,; you think his life should revolve around you and with a pet, especially one that was in his life before you came around, that will never happen.

Nothing you have described thus far shows that your boyfriend’s attachment to the dog is in any way unhealthy. In fact, this entire post is about your own jealousy of the dog and the energy it’s giving of screams insecurity.

How old is the dog? How many years has it been with your husband? If it’s been with your husband for most of its life, you might as well just put it down because taking it away will do the same thing. Pets get attached to their human in the same way humans get attached to their pets. Just because you seem to think moving the pet somewhere else is for its’ own good, doesn’t mean it actually is.

Have you tried merging energy with the animal? Energy work could be a way to help the dog adjust to you because it sounds like your energy right now is tainted by jealousy and insecurity.

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I’m not familiar with energy work like that or merging energy with an animal

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With the amount of jealousy and insecurity you’re giving off, why not just kill the dog with a baneful spell and be done with it? It’ll cause your husband some grief but he’ll eventually get over it. The results of a curse generally look like natural causes so you would escape any blame. It would probably be easier than trying to cut the cords your husband shares with his pet.

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I don’t want to hurt it or my husband. I just want to know what it’s like to be truly and fully loved by the man I married and I don’t feel like that’s going to happen with the dog here

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I’m going to tag @Mulberry here. She’s better versed in energy work than I am and can probably help with the suggestion to tailor your energy to the dog. If the dog is older, its energy might be more set in stone, so to speak.

As for the honey jar, I would not use King Paimon or Bend to Me oil in it. Paimon has a reputation for not being a fan of love spells and Bend to Me oil is all about domination, not love. If the purpose of the honey jar is to sweeten your husband’s view of you, then you shouldn’t be trying to dominate his will but instead coax the feelings he likely already has to the surface. I would suggest Beleth or Sallos instead.

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I have to agree it doesn’t sound unhealthy for a man to love his dog. If you came along later (I don’t see that you said of the dog was there before you) then that dog has been his emotional support for longer. Dogs are also drama free, they never reject or criticize, you can always rely on them for unconditional love 100%, can he do that with you? Probably not, that isn’t how humans work, and neither should they. Humans can give constructive criticisms and that’s part of healthy communication.

Speaking of good communication, have you talked to your husband about feeling neglected by him in favor of the dog? If he doesn’t even know how you feel, he can’t do anything to help it or reassure you.
If you are not sure how to say it, asking for some couples counseling so you can have a serious talk in a neutral place with someone to help would do that for you.

These are baneful not about love. You will always know any result from these is fake, and that is going to make your insecurity worse.

If you didn’t have that when you married it’s between you an him, not anyone else.
Love is not limited by sharing it. It’s like a flame that can light another flame without being halved.

It’s possible your husband has emotional issues, the kind that stem fro childhood trauma that make him more guarded and emotionally less available. That is something introspection, shadow work or therapy can help. In this case it’s got nothing to do with the dog.

You not liking the dog and being resentful of it is going to cause problems and push him further away though. Dogs can read people, and it will be able to tell you resent it, and that will make it be wary of you.

So there’s two thinks you can try here:

  1. Forgive the dog. It’s done nothing to you and none of this is it’s fault.
    Do this by, when you look at it, find ONE thing you appreciate about it. Maybe it’s got nice colored fur, or how it cheers up your husband, or when it’s protective or affectionate. Anything, one small thing, and feel that. You can do this with people too btw. That will open up your energy and a path to making friends.

  2. Try Foras for two of his abilities: Fascinate the Jaded, and Understand a Loved One.

I’m not saying your husband IS jaded by you, it sounds like he’s just very reserved and doesn’t wear his heart on his sleeve. Somewhere along the line he learned he can’t show feelings to humans but he can with dogs. That’s pretty typical for how a lot of men are raised and may be much bigger than you, he does it to all humans. Fascinate the Jaded could undo come of that conditioning. But couples therapy alongside would be ideal.

The 2nd, is self explanatory, you don’t know why he doesn’t show you the love for you that you want him to. Is it that he doesn’t feel it or can’t show it? If you’re thinking he doesn’t feel it, then there are love spells tat only work if there is the potential, that allow for free will

Sallos can inflame affection into more passionate love.
Or Beleth for love from lust, if the passion is there but you want more affection.
Combine them to up the ante on both.

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I had a similar problem with two exes when my dog ​​was here. They even complained, saying I loved her(my dog) more than them. It wasn’t even annoying, but to me, it was just plain silly. Even because one of them was the one who gave me my dog.

He decided to fight and even told me horrible things he would do to my dog ​​because I gave her(my dog) more attention. I won’t make the story too long. The kind of love my dog ​​gave me can’t be found in any human being. It’s irreplaceable, but that doesn’t mean it’s not compatible with loving a human, too.

From my perspective, I would try to connect, bond with the dog, try to share, and have space there. I know it’s not a magical answer. But I’m speaking from my own experience.

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