The thing I have been taught is on my journey as I have faced through chaos, is that there is no such thing as control.
I have experienced both: the feeling of being in control and empowered, and the feeling of being completely out of control. I experienced it all, feeling crippled, powerless, disabled. My emotions were so strong and flooding my system I wasn’t able to function.
I understand what it is like to experience both polarities in context of my own experiences.
However, I realised the power is not to be attached to either polarity. The power is in eradicating attachment to these polarities altogether and going through the process of purification. This is empowerment.
In the middle of all of these polarities is the void. Yes, we still seek to feel fulfilled but this doesn’t come from our perception whether we are doing well one day or not. This is in itself an illusion. This does not mean that you shouldn’t care about your life or external circumstances and that you should neglect yourself. No. The lesson is to become at peace with yourself and the world. Even if your circumstances aren’t great on the outside, ultimately without attachment to control, you are able to accept and deal with difficult situations much easier, with time. You may find that you will not take hardships so personally, and that ultimately you will not feel that these circumstances do not define you.
It will not matter if the bad circumstance you are in is your fault or not. Judgement falls away. You are in the process of shedding in that moment and one and only thing you are faced with to do is: loving yourself through accepting where you are in that moment no matter how many good or bad decisions you have made.
Have a great day/night everyone! 
