First off, this may not be the manifestation of a magickal work, but Jungian synchronicity. If she’s been reminiscing on the past and thinking of you, she could’ve drawn together circumstances for you two to cross paths again without even intending to. Your obsession could be unresolved feelings you’ve buried within yourself after your breakup. Having even a mildly pleasant encounter could release these thoughts from your subconscious and are demanding to be dealt with despite your discomfort. It would require self-introspection through shadow work.
That stated: if you feel this has the strange feel of magick written all over it, then trust your gut.
- Your first step should be to cut the ‘psychic cord’. There’s various methods you can use and are easily found through a search engine. One technique I’ve used is to focus on this person and allow myself to feel without judgment this connection we have. I imagine them in front of me with their mannerisms, speech, smells, etc. Then I feel in front of my heart where these emotions emanate from. I was surprised to literally feel a cord I grasped considering my third eye abilities aren’t the strongest. With the other hand, make the shape of scissors and cut the cord you are holding.
- Deflection Mirror Shield. Visualize mirrors surrounding you with the reflections facing outwards so anything sent your way bounces back.
- Do yourself a favor and buy Dr. Bronner’s Peppermint Castile Soap to use as a daily wash. Cleanse it of previous energies by either passing it through cleansing smoke such as from incense made of pine, cedar, sandalwood, sage, or sagebrush; burying the bottle in salt, sand, or dirt for 24 hours; or by letting it soak in salt water for a couple hours. Set your intentions to use it as a magickal cleanser and ‘charge’ the bottle by letting it get plenty of sunlight for a day. If your home uses soft water, then you have the added protection/purification/cleansing properties of salt every time you wash up. Here’s what is in the fair trade ingredients:
Water: likely distilled. No properties unless ‘charged’.
Organic Coconut Oil: purification and protection
Potassium Hydroxide (lye): transmutation (note: inferred the property based upon the extraction of hardwood ashes mixed with soft water before adding to animal or vegetable fats).
Organic Palm Kernel Oil: healing and protection (note: rare to find any information likely due to its association with unethical manufacturing - removing rainforests to make palm farms, effect on climate change, and documented human rights’ abuses and child labor; magickal properties inferred on journal papers regarding traditional magic uses)
Organic Olive Oil: healing, peace, fertility, protection
Organic Hemp Oil: healing, love, psychic ability, protection
Organic Jojoba Oil: healing and love
Citric Acid (tapioca derived): healing, protection, grounding, stability, sympathetic magick (Note: tapioca starch is derived from the roots of cassava/yuca. This tuber has lore of forming as a staple crop when a woman’s child had starved to death and a spirit appeared who transmutated the buried body so others will not suffer the same fate of starvation. As a root crop, I inferred magickal properties from its fellow root crop, the potato)
Tocopherol (vitamin E derived from soy and sunflower oils): luck, protection, psychic awareness, spirituality (soy); protection, fertility, health, luck, joy, wisdom (sunflower)
Mint (contains peppermint and wild mint): to break hex/jinx/crossing magick, psychic development, purification, protection, healing, love, calmness, and prosperity
Active Spell Work
- You could do a simple return spell. Write down something to the effect “return this unwanted, forced obsession back to who sent it forth” before throwing it into a fire. You could petition/pray to the proper spirit/god/dess who you feel could help you. An offering of thanks for them would be appropriate if you ask them for a favor. The Greek Titan Hecate (heh-kuh-tee) is a chthonic goddess associated with witchcraft, spirits, the dead, et cetera who would be good for a petition such as this. A good quid pro quo offering would be roasted sweet potatoes or pumpkin as they’re safe for dogs to consume (she’s also associated with being a vegetarian and dogs). Alternatively, if you work divination, you can dedicate free readings to others as a sacrifice to her. Do it before petitioning.
2a. You could do sympathetic magic. To stop love from growing, you can bury a seed in a small pot representing her love or your love before covering it with pink Himalayan salt to make the seed/the love infertile.
2b. Alternatively, you can shape a heart made from dough with your names inscribed on a piece of paper inside of it. A day or two before the new moon, take it somewhere away from your property, squeeze the juice of a lemon all over the heart, and state “This love shall wither,” before stabbing the heart repeatedly. Bury the broken heart. When you walk home, take the long way as if you are trying to lose a tail/stalker.
As mentioned earlier, spell work with the intention of retribution/punishing is likely to backfire on your ass where your ex is well-seasoned and you’re not. Don’t forget to add a time clause within any spells cast (ex: by two full moons). You can always check the progress of your spell work through divination as well.
Happy heresies. Enjoy your new adventure into godhood.