Experienced this same situation and for a long time (four years wasted, SMH), I believed that there would be a reconciliation because both other readers and my own reading were saying the very same things. While I understand how you feel and it’s very difficult not to scratch the itch of curiosity and constant confirmation, there comes a time that in doing repetitive readings, the cards either: (1) show you more and more negative cards just for you to quit asking and/or; (2) show you what you want just for you to sit back, relax and FINALLY quit asking. How you want things to be/your bias may be rubbing off on the cards because of constant readings about the same question.
As for those other readers, like the previous reply has stated, there are many out there who tell you what you want to hear. Pick-a-cards on Youtube, for instance, are a primary example. After all, who wants to be the bearer of bad news, right? When in doing so you may lose potential clients or payments. Furthermore, readers are usually sensitive to their clients’ energy, so feeling them all sad and heartbroken, surely you’d want to help uplift them too, hence the sugarcoating and trying to find the positives in a situation, providing some sort of hope (was guilty of this lol). Some readers intentionally do this to keep you going back to them = they keep earning cha-ching, but I’d like to give your readers the benefit of the doubt since I do not know them at all.
Unlike your primary reader, I am not shocked however that your ex’s actions are not similar to his/her thoughts. It’s pretty much human nature to think about certain things, feel certain feelings and still not act on them or even act the direct opposite of it all. How many times did you have a crush on someone only to act like they don’t exist to you or like they’re the most despicable person to walk the Earth and you’d either glare or bully him/her every chance you get? Yes, thought so too. Also, Tarot like any other tool is still fallible or questionable. It may be spot-on most of the time but it is never 100% correct, powerful or set in stone. It is more on how you act (or not) on those readings that will truly determine a situation’s outcome. Though I’ve come across others who believe otherwise, I still stick to my (and other people’s) experiences of defying a tarot reading’s results and changing it all up for the better.
Now, just as one long-ago heartbroken fellow to another, I want to tell you that the moment you begin doing plenty of readings for how someone thinks, feels, will act towards you etc. is a red flag already. When another person decides to act (or not act) in a certain way, no matter how contradictory their thoughts/feelings may be to it, believe what they show you, work on cutting your losses and walk away. You deserve much better than waiting and worrying over a potentially unhealthy situation. And if his/her thoughts/feelings are TRULY saying he/she wants you instead of someone else, you do not owe it to him/her to make him/her recognize, acknowledge and act accordingly on it.