Okay, so I’ve been thinking about something for awhile now. See my adopted mother passed away when I was 9 years old. Before her, well my birth parents basically abandoned me and my 2 sisters, so didn’t really have the mother-son bond there…since we had to basically fend for ourselves till the authorities found us.
My older sister, before the orphanage acted as a “mom” for me and my other sister when our parents abandoned us – she took care of us…which was hard. That’s difficult for me because after mom passed, she got involved in drugs and she also passed away 4 years ago. She was the oldest – me being the youngest.
So I only really have 6 years of being able to really feel what it was like to feel love from a mother, or I guess that mother-son bond, and emotional support. My dad is awesome, but he struggles to help/understand me emotionally which he himself has admitted. I understand that, him and I get along very well, but I think I miss having a mother figure in my life. Although I’ll admit I don’t remember what it was like well…all I know was I was VERY attached to mom.
I feel like this has really impacted me, I know subconsciously I’m looking for a mother figure, or something like that…it’s complicated.
My question is, well I mean I’m not really sure. Part of me wants to feel love from someone who is “motherly” towards me (since I miss that), but I know I’ll never have a mom – well one that is Physically alive with me. I think about this ALOT, and realize it impacts my work (magical) to – as I’ve been preferring to work with well female spirits/goddesses/etc due to this. And Physically I tend to attach more to females then males – emotionally that is for similar reasons, ones who feel motherly, or act in that way.
My feelings on this topic are pretty mixed – part of me craves/misses/desires that type of love/bond/mother figure in my life again (spiritual or Physical) but I’m not sure…
So is there a way I can EXPERIENCE/FEEL this type of love/connection again? Mudane or otherwise. I know no one will replace my mom (and I will NOT let anyone ever take her place – she means alot to me), but I want to feel something similar or that type of support/connection again.