Work to attract the RIGHT person, not what you may have your eye on, is all I have here really, My love life was a car crash (aided and abetted by my own utter stupidity and weirdness) and that’s kind of how it worked out, though honestly I think my gods and spirits all just took pity on me and kinda steered me the right way, because i was NOT accomplishing jack left to my own devices… 
Consider a working like this to co-create your Godman/-woman/-being:
… that way, you won’t have that template and keep projecting it onto thew wrong people. I did this after finding my hun but I know it helps with avoding destrictuve crushes because other people (offline) have used it for this and gotten their shit sorted out fast.
It’s like, part of us seeks an idealised cxomplement that is also in some ways an aspect of ourselves we have not yet manifested, and we can pin that onto another person and think it’s love, when really it’s internal and nothing to do with that person’s reality.