This is very interesting to discuss because I’m a firm believer in love magick and its possibilities. I’ve also seen a lot of success stories but also some not-so-great ones. What I’m about to discuss is based on what others stories I’ve read, my own experience, and intuition plus a mix of common sense.
Love magick can and will work. It’s magick so the problem is never really the spell but the caster. It is however something you need to think about. For example, if you just want FWB, Hookups, and etc. That’s easy. Some lust spells, some going out more, making yourself look nice, plus adding in some internal alchemy to remove limiting beliefs about yourself and the world will work wonders.
Now love spells can be easy too. But every situation is different. If you have someone who isn’t open to love then you need to work on getting them to be open to love. If someone has other commitments (whether it be a third party or just another emotional commitment) then work on removing or lessening those.
Now internal alchemy is important or almost a must here. You need to be willing to accept love as well. You can’t think no one loves you and expect someone to love you. Now I don’t like the phrase “You gotta love yourself first” depression is a bitch and it’s not easy for everyone but you gotta be willing to put in the work. You can be in a relationship and not fully love yourself but if you refuse to work on that and leave that up to your partner then it’s gonna end in flames.
You also need to know what you want out of a relationship. Like you might know who you want but how do you actually want the relationship to be? Do you know how you liked to be loved? Do you know how you want the relationship to go? How long you want it to last? Of course, you can’t always plan for how a relationship will go and you don’t want a plan you just need to know what you want out of someone.
Then vise versa. What can you do to be the best partner you can be. This doesn’t get talked about enough because a lot of people on here are focused on getting the partner and having them love and lust over them. Love isn’t enough for a relationship and neither is lust. You gotta be honest with yourself on why you’re doing this. If you want a relationship you gotta be willing to love someone back and make yourself able to do that. Do you want a submissive fuck buddy who only wants you? That’s fine but it’s not a relationship (well it is but I’m using this term to mean a loving relationship but technically it is one).
I say the above because knowing what you want is important to how you go about it. Also if you’re just wanting someone to love you because they were nice to you and you want to feel loved then you could get it but I doubt it’ll last too long.
Confidence is always a big key. You need to be confident and assertive when doing this magick and well talking to potential partners. I say this no matter the gender honestly. You don’t need to be dickish or mean (though for some people that works but no need to be a complete asshole). I know a lot of people who seem confident and assertive and immediately think that they need to assholish to get attention. No, that won’t work because you don’t actually believe it has an effect, you’re just doing it because you read it online somewhere. It’s about being confident and assertive.
Detachment is also a big thing. This is for any magick but for example, if you’re doing lust magick to hook up with certain people then you need to detach. Hook up with other people, don’t care if you don’t hook up with them right away, don’t be obsessive. Similar in love. I say to stay connected to your feelings for that person by detaching from the outcome or the need. Or you will come off needy.
This was long as fuck and some people might have different ideas about it and I’m pretty sure they are good ideas. This is just what I’ve noticed and I wanted to post it so that if anyone gets discouraged from the poll or lack of results they may come and see possible reasons why. Plus I’ve been needing to get my thoughts about all this out because they’ve been in my head for a while but seeing them laid out this way does make sense to me.
agree with you