My lover was that way when her and I first connected, she did calm down over time. However she’s always a “touchy-feely” type of spirit, so if I let her - it would probably turn more sexual.
At first he wasn’t this sexual. Like, he did still like to do it a lot and in many rounds, but after a while he started acting different and became way more sexual than before. He also wasn’t in love with me or really protective of me like he is now.
In my experience, they get more confident when there have room for it. They have criteria to know when it is a suitable moment and how they should manifest. However, that criteria could possibly not always meet the criteria of humans, in such cases boundaries should be set
How do I set boundaries?
You need to talk to him honestly and make yourself be respected. However, incubi have their own personalities, just like humans. Like it is says in Matthew 7:18
18 A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.
Thus your incubus shoulnd’t go against your true nature
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Also, he’s been a unbound who’s been with me for months. He is considerably dark and his energy is very strong. It still gives me serious nausea and headaches when it gets strong which is weird to me since I should be used to it because he’s been with me for so long. I’m not sure if he’s living or not, but I think he is. Or he could’ve just became more confident like you said because he’s sure he a personality change or is just showing me himself.
The are sexual demons so the big sex drive is normal. The red flag to me is you getting sick. That’s not goo he is doing or taking too much from you. Have you told him you are getting sick?
It’s not always a problem tbh. It’s only when his energy gets too strong for me to take. I haven’t spoken to him about yet so I’ll let him know about it. Sometime he does go overboard and takes a bit too much energy but I talked to him about that already. I read on another forum that the nausea is caused by the dark energy and me not being that dark and having to get accustomed to it.
Always when there is too much energy, I feel a need to vomit, even if the energy is not bad, it’s just because of the ammount of it. What I do then, is to send that energy to do something
In my experience…
Actual succubi and incubi are usually helpful. If you jerk around with them, they might put a good scare into you; but usually their interactions with human beings are brief and unnoticed. They’re just doing their thing and not causing a great deal of trauma by it. Most intense thing they’ll do is perhaps an incubus will possess a man in order to sire a Lilin by his partner but, again, that probably goes by unnoticed by everyone concerned.
That said, there are a lot of astral parasites and other bush league nasties that love to pretend to be succubi and incubi. These are not demons. They’re just… gutter trash. I call them Astral Herpes. It’s one of the main reasons that I insist that people learn the basics of good banishing before they begin spirit work. The only thing you can do with them is just that: banish them.
As you progress and build an entourage(?) of familiar spirits, they will cease to be a problem. Like Jesus said, “How can someone enter a strong man’s house and plunder his goods, unless he first binds the strong man? Then indeed he may plunder his house.” (Matt. 12:29 ESV) You get a few big ass hellhounds guarding your space and these trifling little things will move on to easier targets.
Warning signs of Astral Herpes:
Tiredness. This is the big one. They’re feeding off your sexual/life energy. When I had one, I was sleeping something like 12-16 hours a day and still couldn’t wake up fully. I’d slam half a pot of coffee and go right back to sleep.
Depression. Same as above. You’ll stop enjoying things. You’ll feel despair. You’ll feel like your magic isn’t working any more or that it’s all bullshit and you’re making it up. That last one is a kind of spiritual venom the parasites use to keep you from banishing them.
Anxiety. Related to the above. Your defenses and your ability to cope with stress are down. You’ll spend all your time worrying about things instead of doing something about them.
Horniness. In spite of all of the above, you’ll constantly want to masturbate or fantasize about sex or watch porn. Anything to keep the sexual energy flowing.
Other. These are less common physical symptoms like nausea, weight loss, dizziness, rashes or skin conditions, getting sick from diseases your body is normally able to fight off, back pain (especially in the lower back). Just generally poor health and slowly wasting away.
Again, just my experience and research. You take it with a grain of salt.
(Some portions excerpted from “Why Is My Wand Itchy? A Beginner’s Guide To Safer Hex” by Rev. Dr. Eddie Romanov, D.F.S. published by The Process Clench of The Final X-Day Publications Division, Pueblo, Colorado.)
This question is akin to asking if humans can have different libido levels. Succubus and incubus aren’t all about sex because of hormones, most of them need it because of the sexual energy it provides, without it they can become weak, while others for fun, or simply for the extra energy.
Can you pm me? I want to give you details about all of this because I’m not sure if he’s an Ubi or sexual parasite.
But would one need it everyday though?
Not really, not unless they’re insanely weak, or doing it more for fun than for the need to feed.
This is really frustrating me I’m not sure about doing divination to figure this out because he could easily lie and I don’t know any conjurers that can find out for me.
Now I’m starting to wonder whether most of the people who do the “letter of intent” is actually with a parasite and not ACTUAL Succubi/incubi from the sounds of it. So does that method even work?
I noticed that people don’t use protection for that method to, don’t cast a circle or anything to LIMIT what can come through…
Just wondering if Lilith actually responds to those letters or people are getting fooled… Although some seem legit, but I read alot of threads/posts/stories that sound parasitic.
Which is why I’m wondering if there’s a more secure way to summon one, so not just anything can come through, like how people take protective measures to ensure not just anything can come through during any standard Evocation.
Hey I was already on another topic when you messaged so that’s why I’m replying so fast. I didn’t use a letter of intent when he came to me. It was a month after I started my spiritual journey and opened all of my chakras and astral senses. I guess I was giving off some sort of sexual energy that he liked and he came to me. It was very weird and slightly scary at first. I wanted to ask goddess Lilith if she could help me (of course id give offerings and such) but since he’s probably not an incubus I don’t think it’d do much help.