Well, it seems like you are very new to magic, so i doubt your senses are open yet. However, you can use the smoke of the incense to scry to see the spirit. Sometimes, if your third eye is slightly open, you may get vision in your minds eye of the spirit. Do not worry their not scare. The worst you can see is a skull. Unless they are intentionally trying to make u scared.
So please check out my journal and if you have any questions post them in the link below. Note: Do not hesitate to ask me anything and at any time. I am always happy to help.